LET’S TALK ATTACHMENTS17 Sep 2024

An Inside Look into the Dismissive Avoidant Attachment Mind With Licensed Therapist Patch McCormick

Today on the podcast, we have Patch McCormick, a former ad man turned relationship therapist for men, couples, and groups. Individually, he helps men earn secure attachment with a combination of IFS, EMDR, CBT, and various somatic tools. He's incredibly passionate about teaching assertiveness and how to build confidence. Patch was bold enough to agree to come onto my podcast and share his personal experience with having a dismissive avoidant attachment style and his process over the years to becoming more secure.

We talk about:

-How our hypermasculine society reinforces the dismissive avoidant attachment style characteristics and behaviors.

-The importance of normalizing male emotionality.

-Common dismissive avoidant fears hindering them from commitment.

-What makes a “safe partner” and motivates them to change.

-Debunking the misconception that dismissive avoidants don't have feelings and don't want relationships.

-Why avoidants are subconsciously attracted to anxious attachers (and vice versa).

-How avoidant and anxious attachers can actually serve as catalysts for each others individual growth and healing.

-How to best determine when to stay or leave your relationship with an avoidant attacher.

-Strategies Patch has used to overcome his avoidant attachment style and earn secure attachment.

Contact Patch:

www.talktopatch.com

Instagram: @talktopatch

Attachment Coaching with Jessica:

One-on-one Coaching (10 weeks)

My Secure Self Group Coaching (12 weeks)

Email: hello@jessicadasilvacoaching.com

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