#002 Dr Rachel Taylor - Autism, Ayahuasca & The Importance of Secure Infant Attachment

Sex is a vital part of human life. But how best do we approach it? Western society sends mixed messages about sexuality. We’re not taught how to understand our relationship to our bodies. This often leads to feelings of shame, avoidance and in extreme cases, toxic and dangerous behaviour. We should all strive to be authentic and ignoring or masking our sexuality can only lead to negative outcomes. But where should we start? Right here, My guest today is Nadja Lasbeck, she's an intimacy coach, relationship therapist, lecturer & a mother. Nadja and I discuss: How to raise children in a sex positive environment If Butterflies are a prerequisite for chemistry Why we SHOULDN’T compromise in relationships The Role of shame in blocking intimacy The Difference between fantasy and desire? What the definition of a friendship crush is. If BJJ is a bit gay Whether we should keep our socks on or off in bedroom How to communicate discomfort in the bedroom The role of culture in shaping sexuality Masculinity The difference between sensuality and sexuality and… Euro Trash Please enjoy this beautiful exploration of sexuality, with Nadja Lasbeck. Keywords: sexuality, relationships, intimacy, shame, communication, culture, sex-positive, desire, fantasy, therapy, sexuality, relationships, personal growth, modern relationships, media, self-work, body image, desires, friendship crushes, compromise, non-monogamy #intimacy #shameandsex #sexpositivehome #podcast #awakenoutofcontext ***LINKS*** NADJA’S STUFF: Nadja’s Website: https://bit.ly/46L7hLi Nadja’s Instagram: https://bit.ly/3M1vrHO OTHER STUFF: Eurotrash: https://bit.ly/4fIXARi MY STUFF: Awaken Out Of Context Podcast (YouTube & Podcast Links): https://bit.ly/3tk8FVv Follow Me On Instagram (@awakenoutofjason): https://bit.ly/3RAkKQj Chapters 00:00 Introduction and Personal Challenges 01:31 Nadja's Journey to Becoming a Sex and Couples Therapist 11:02 Cultural Differences in Attitudes Towards Sex 17:48 Exploring Kinks as a Tool for Healing Trauma 27:21 Navigating Discomfort and Setting Boundaries in Intimate Relationships 35:26 Becoming More Secure: Practising and Drilling Behaviours 40:30 Navigating Cultural Expectations and Societal Messages Around Sexuality 44:09 Authenticity and the Complexities of Masculinity 50:26 Exploring Sensuality and Sexiness 56:54 Parenting and Instilling a Healthy Approach to Sexuality 01:11:05 Exploring Masculinity and Jiu-Jitsu 01:14:10 The Role of Physical Touch and Intimacy 01:15:24 Childhood Experiences and Relationship Dynamics 01:22:00 The Influence of Media on Sexuality 01:32:49 Navigating Friendship Crushes 01:39:21 Comfort and Boundaries in the Bedroom 01:40:52 The Pitfalls of Compromise in Relationships 01:45:29 Understanding Non-Monogamy and Communication

12 Aug 20241h 50min

Bit of a change-up this week—it's just me! I'm running through 15 lessons, insights, and tools that I've been implementing over the past year. Some are from podcast guests, some from other podcasts, and some I've developed myself. Have a listen to find out what the following means: “What if it were the last time?” ‘Cyclic Working’ Self WhatsApping Calling on Ancestral Wisdom Reframing Loneliness Secure Attachment Strategies Being Authentic in WhatsApp Groups Communicating Your Needs NEEDN'T Be Hard Difficult Conversations Aren't Even Difficult How Can ‘Future You’ Show Up Now? It’s Not You, It’s Them Harnessing Negative and Positive Visualisation Being the Ancestor of Your Future Happiness The Power of 10 Minutes Offering Solutions VS Listening Let me know if you listen and which of these you liked the most! #lifestrategies #ancestralwisdom #secureattachmentstrategies #podcast #awakenoutofcontext ***LINKS*** MY STUFF: Awaken Out Of Context Podcast (YouTube & Podcast Links): https://bit.ly/3tk8FVv Follow Me On Instagram (@awakenoutofjason): https://bit.ly/3RAkKQj

5 Aug 202433min

My guest today is Jessica Da Silva, she's a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, Attachment Coach & a Podcaster. Today we cover: How to fix an insecure attachment style The Four Attachment Styles and How They impact all of our lives Why it's important to know your attachment style Which attachment styles are the most compatible (and most toxic) Why we repeatedly get into relationships with the wrong type of partner over and over, The impact of adverse childhood experiences on shaping our attachment style How to spot others' attachment style How to cultivate emotional intelligence Why you should have sympathy for the bullies at school and How the anxiously attached experience weddings This episode is for everyone! Everyone has an attachment style. Even if yours is secure, it's useful to understand how others experience daily interactions with you. We all seek better relationships, and understanding attachment theory is a valuable tool. If you want to take a quiz to find out your attachment style, check the link in the show notes. I hope you enjoy my conversation with Jessica Da Silva Keywords attachment theory, attachment styles, relationships, emotional intelligence, secure attachment, distractions, expectations, parenting, social media, anxiety, attachment theory, repetitive relationship patterns, partners' access to phones, red flags, emotional intelligence, insecurities, meeting needs, healthy balance, love addiction, attachment styles, dependency, pop culture, loneliness, weddings #knowyourattachmentstyle #attachmenttheory #podcast #awakenoutofcontext Chapters 00:00 Introduction to Attachment Theory 06:12 The Importance of Knowing Your Attachment Style 09:18 Personal Experiences and Challenges 15:19 The Role of Secure Partners in Relationships 28:51 Understanding the Impact of Childhood Experiences 32:22 The Challenges of Modern Parenting 41:14 Understanding Attachment Styles 44:38 Cultivating Emotional Intelligence 48:11 The Pitfalls of Love Addiction 50:46 Balancing Distractions and Real Connection 55:34 The Influence of Pop Culture on Love and Relationships 01:03:03 Understanding Attachment Styles 01:05:56 Loneliness and Attachment Styles 01:09:12 Compassion for Bullies and Trauma 01:16:12 Attachment Styles Beyond Romantic Relationships 01:22:08 Jessica's Journey and Personal Insights 01:23:10 Jessica's Book and Future Projects ***LINKS*** Jessica’s Instagram: https://bit.ly/3Ssg3I2 Jessica’s Website & Links: https://bit.ly/3WFDvUJ Free Attachment Style Quiz: https://bit.ly/3ysmNP8 MY STUFF: Awaken Out Of Context Podcast (YouTube & Podcast Links): https://bit.ly/3tk8FVv Follow Me On Instagram (@awakenoutofjason): https://bit.ly/3RAkKQj

29 Jul 20241h 23min

Today my guest is Dr Joey Liu, she’s a trauma-informed writing and speaking coach. This has been one of my favourite conversations, the chapter list is below: Chapters: 00:00 Introduction and Morning Routine 11:25 Mindfulness and Meditation 16:14 Optimizing Energy Levels with Circadian Rhythms 20:30 Challenges of Traditional Work Schedules 21:53 Introduction and Discussion on Climate in Southern California 22:48 Dr. Joey Liu's Story and the Importance of Storytelling 24:14 The Hakka People and Their Diasporic History 32:39 Understanding Decolonization and Challenging Societal Norms 36:40 Different Communities and the Challenges They Face 45:16 Neurodivergence and the Need for Inclusion 01:01:48 Family History and Courageous Conversations 01:03:25 Reframing Our Stories and Deep Listening 01:07:17 Embracing Neurodivergence 01:10:04 The Experience of Night Terrors 01:40:00 Night Terrors and Sleep Paralysis 01:45:25 The Fear of Oversharing 01:47:00 Safe Storytelling 02:07:18 Future Plans and Dreams Keywords: morning routine, circadian rhythms, travel, trauma-informed, writing coach, speaking coach, balance, California, misperception, sunny, Hakka, storytelling, decolonization, healing, neurodivergence, identity, belonging, autism, diagnosis, societal stigma, negative narratives, self-acceptance, safe spaces, neurodivergent, sleep disturbances, night terrors, sheer terror, sleep paralysis, night terrors, dreams, death, fear, oversharing, boundaries, storytelling, vulnerability, future plans #Authenticity #Neurodivergence #Decolonisation #AwakenOutOfContext #Podcast Please follow @dr.joey.liu on Instagram! ***LINKS*** Dr Joey Liu’s Instagram: https://bit.ly/4fdMZOg Dr. Joey Liu Coaching & Courses: https://bit.ly/3zTq0I8 MY STUFF: Awaken Out Of Context Podcast (YouTube & Podcast Links): https://bit.ly/3tk8FVv Follow Me On Instagram (@awakenoutofjason): https://bit.ly/3RAkKQj

22 Jul 20242h 10min

Hey everyone, welcome back to the podcast. Today my guest is Tsiory Kabath. She is a Nutritional Therapist, Wife, and Mother. Tsiory and I explore a range of topics including the regulation of blood sugar and its effects on the menstrual cycle, the dark underbelly of the white label supplement industry, and meal replacement shakes and greens powders such as Huel and AG1. We also delve into the importance of healthy stomach acid, understanding the risks of high-temperature cooking, and the benefits and limitations of fasting. Additionally, we discuss minimising your exposure to environmental toxins and making informed choices with ingredient labels. I hope you enjoy my conversation with Tsiory Kabath. #Nutrition #Food #Health #AwakenOutOfContext #Podcast Chapters 00:00 Becoming a Nutritional Therapist 01:26 Differentiating Nutritional Therapist and Nutritionist 04:59 Taking a Root Cause Approach to Health 17:30 Nutrition for Women and Hormonal Balance 21:01 Understanding the Impact of Wheat on Health 33:14 The Deceptive Marketing of Processed Foods 34:53 Understanding Additives and Health Washing 41:11 Affordability and Making Healthier Choices 44:11 The Benefits and Limitations of Fasting 57:36 Meal Replacement Shakes: Convenience vs. Whole Foods 01:05:12 Greens Powders: Supplementing Vegetable Intake 01:08:09 Supplementation and a Food-First Approach 01:14:00 Navigating the World of Supplements 01:20:30 Minimising Exposure to Toxins 01:23:31 Understanding the Risks of High-Temperature Cooking 01:34:15 Making Informed Choices with Ingredient Labels -------------------------------------------- ***LINKS*** Tsiory’s Instagram: https://bit.ly/3S5E8nM MY STUFF: Awaken Out Of Context Podcast (YouTube & Podcast Links): https://bit.ly/3tk8FVv Follow Me On Instagram (@awakenoutofjason): https://bit.ly/3RAkKQj

15 Jul 20241h 37min

Hey everyone, welcome back to the podcast. Today my guest is Persia Lawson. She is a 2X author, dating & relationship coach, and a podcaster. Persia and I explore various topics including masculinity and femininity in relationships, the promise of love and faith, staying open to opportunities, and navigating the dating landscape. We also discuss being intentional and the importance of focusing on how you want to feel in a relationship, using scripting to manifest your ideal life, and embracing magic and playfulness in dating. I hope you enjoy this conversation with Persia Lawson. #RelationshipAdvice #DatingAdvice #Scripting #AwakenOutOfContext #Podcast ***LINKS*** PERSIA’S STUFF: Persia’s Instagram: https://bit.ly/4cRsHbq MY STUFF: Awaken Out Of Context Podcast (YouTube & Podcast Links): https://bit.ly/3tk8FVv Follow Me On Instagram (@awakenoutofjason): https://bit.ly/3RAkKQj Chapters 00:00 Introduction 01:09 Why Persia Does What She Does 04:34 Persia's Work and Programs 07:04 Masculinity and Femininity in Relationships 25:17 The Promise of Love and Faith 34:32 Introduction 35:09 Staying Open to Opportunities 37:38 Challenges in Modern Relationships 43:29 Gender Dynamics and Communication 55:21 The Impact of Social Media 01:01:09 Navigating the Dating Landscape 01:06:18 Meeting People in Real Life 01:06:50 Practising New Skills and Enjoying the Dating Process 01:07:59 The Role of Dating Apps and Their Impact on Self-Confidence 01:09:47 Being Intentional in Relationships and Focusing on How You Want to Feel 01:12:09 Using Scripting to Manifest the Desired Relationship 01:13:41 Embracing the Magic and Playfulness in Dating 01:15:36 Balancing Intentionality and Serendipity in Finding Love

8 Jul 20241h 38min

Hey everybody, welcome back to the podcast. Today, my guest is Dr. Joey Weber, a world-renowned expert in equanimity and a TIRI assistant professor at Bolton University in England. Joey and I take a deep dive into an array of topics around equanimity, including: How to acknowledge and let go of emotions How trauma affects our cognitive biases Finding the balance of compassion, passivity and assertiveness in the workplace The role of ego and self-perception What "Water Off A Duck’s Back" actually means The illusion of self Keeping the ego in check while balancing the desire for individuality Navigating loneliness and the divine desire for companionship This was such a beautiful conversation for me. For those of you that don't know, Joey was my first-ever podcast guest. Since that conversation, we’ve kept in touch. There is lots of tactical stuff in here, mainly centred around my own experiences, as I opened up about some of the things I've been struggling with lately and asked Joey for his help in using equanimity to find well… equanimity. And, If you like surprises, stay along to the end of the episode for a special announcement. I hope you enjoy this conversation with Dr Joey Weber. #Equanimity #Loneliness  #AwakenOutOfContext #Podcast  JOEY’S STUFF:Joey’s Website: https://bit.ly/437uKmV Joey’s Book: https://bit.ly/45vJgqq MY STUFF: Awaken Out Of Context Podcast (YouTube & Podcast Links): https://bit.ly/3tk8FVv Follow Me On Instagram (@awakenoutofjason): https://bit.ly/3RAkKQj Chapters 00:00 Addressing Childhood Trauma and Attachment Styles 10:32 Acknowledging and Letting Go of Emotions 13:29 Finding the Midpoint: Healthy Coping Strategies and Assertiveness 19:19 The Role of Ego and Self-Perception 29:51 The Duck Analogy: Letting Water Roll off Your Back 35:00 Exploring the Nature of the Self 41:36 Exploring the Illusion of Self 42:57 Meditation and the Practice of Looking for the Self 49:36 The Nature of Ego and the Desire for Individuality 01:00:34 Processing Trauma and Healing 01:03:18 Navigating Loneliness and the Desire for Companionship 01:13:10 The Experience of Loneliness 01:22:39 Embracing All Emotions 01:26:17 Finding Equanimity in Acceptance 01:32:20 Planning Trips and Retreats

1 Jul 20241h 34min

Hey everyone, welcome back to the podcast. My guest today is Lloyd Kempson. He's an athlete, running coach, broadcaster, and an entrepreneur. As you might expect, today's conversation centres around running and how to get better at it. Lloyd shares with me his top three tips on how to become a better runner, why there is no such thing as the perfect running form, fueling protocols for training and on race day, when to incorporate cross-training, which machines or methods are best, exactly how many miles you should be running to prepare for a marathon, and whether or not it's realistic to run a marathon at your 5K pace. Additionally, Lloyd shares his approach to nutrition and supplementation and we delve into Lloyd's professional work and the multitude of projects he's involved in. Lloyd also opens up about his recent diagnosis with ADHD and depression. There is a lot to take from this episode, whether or not you are a serious runner, Hyrox athlete, or just wanting to get better at running or get started running, this is an amazing resource. I am extremely grateful for the time that Lloyd gave me to talk through all of his years of experience. If you were to engage someone like Lloyd's services, it would cost you a lot of money. So please take notes and enjoy my conversation with Lloyd Kempson. #Running #MarathonTraining #AwakenOutOfContext #Podcast ***LINKS*** LLOYD’S STUFF: Lloyd’s Instagram https://bit.ly/4cmvuJu Trackstaa IG: https://bit.ly/3XtBjR3 MY STUFF: Awaken Out Of Context Podcast (YouTube & Podcast Links): https://bit.ly/3tk8FVv Follow Me On Instagram (@awakenoutofjason): https://bit.ly/3RAkKQj

24 Jun 20241h 39min