The Hidden Cost of Perfectionism: Why You Never Feel Good Enough with Ellen Hendriksen
The One You Feed21 Feb 2025

The Hidden Cost of Perfectionism: Why You Never Feel Good Enough with Ellen Hendriksen

In this episode, Ellen Hendriksen discusses the hidden costs of perfectionism and why you never feel good enough. She shares the various ways perfectionism disguises itself as a positive trait—when in reality, it can lead to self-criticism, procrastination, and emotional exhaustion. Ellen also explains why perfectionism is less about being perfect and more about never feeling good enough, how self-acceptance is the antidote, and why procrastination is actually an emotional regulation problem (not a time management issue). Key Takeaways: (01:02) – Perfectionism isn’t about being perfect—it’s about never feeling good enough (03:26) – The two wolves of perfectionism: Conscientiousness vs. Self-Criticism (07:36) – Overevaluation: When self-worth gets tangled with performance (16:57) – Guided Drift: Mr. Rogers’ surprising philosophy on perfection and mistakes (26:51) – The power of self-compassion: You don’t need to be perfect to be worthy (39:40) – Emotional Perfectionism: The toxic belief that you “shouldn’t” feel a certain way (43:59) – Why procrastination is actually about emotion management—not time management (50:46) – How to release past mistakes and stop ruminating over failures For full show notes, click here! If you enjoyed this episode with Ellen Hendriksen, check out these other episodes: How to Overcome Perfectionism and Create Your Best Work with David Kadavy How to Manage Social Anxiety and The Inner Critic with Ellen Hendriksen Being a Procrastinator with Tim Pychyl Connect with the show: Follow us on YouTube: @TheOneYouFeedPod Subscribe on Apple Podcasts or Spotify Follow us on Instagram See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episoder(972)

Why We Resist Change (and What to Do About It) with Ross Ellenhorn

Why We Resist Change (and What to Do About It) with Ross Ellenhorn

In this episode, Ross Ellenhorn explores the complexities of why we resist change and what to do about it. As Ross explains in this conversation, “staying the same protects you from the insult of smal...

22 Jul 20251h

How to Create Change at Work Without Losing Yourself with Melody Wilding

How to Create Change at Work Without Losing Yourself with Melody Wilding

In this episode, Melody Wilding discusses how to create change at work without losing yourself. She challenges the idea that you’re powerless at work, even in tough cultures. If you’ve ever wondered h...

18 Jul 20251h 9min

Can Radical Hope Save Us from Despair in a Fractured World? with Jamie Wheal

Can Radical Hope Save Us from Despair in a Fractured World? with Jamie Wheal

In this episode, Jamie Wheal explores the question of “Can radical hope save us from despair in a fractured world?” He argues that most of the feel-good positivity we are sold is useless when facing r...

15 Jul 20251h 8min

Is Stress Speeding Up Your Aging? What You Can Do About It Today with Elissa Epel

Is Stress Speeding Up Your Aging? What You Can Do About It Today with Elissa Epel

In this episode, Elissa Epel explores how stress can speed up aging and what you can do about it. She explains telomeres, which are those protective caps on our chromosomes, shorten with stress and po...

11 Jul 202539min

From “Why Me?” to “What Now?”: A New Approach to Pain and Growth  with Scott Barry Kaufman

From “Why Me?” to “What Now?”: A New Approach to Pain and Growth with Scott Barry Kaufman

In this episode, Scott Barry Kaufman challenges us to go from asking ourselves “Why Me?” to “What Now?” as he unpacks a new approach to pain and growth. Scott explains how the real work happens in the...

8 Jul 20251h 2min

Purposeful Living: Strategies to Align Your Values and Actions with Victor Strecher

Purposeful Living: Strategies to Align Your Values and Actions with Victor Strecher

In this episode, Victor Strecher discusses purposeful living and strategies to align your values and actions. Vic shares his imperfect journey back to meaning and to living for what matters most after...

4 Jul 20251h 9min

Escape the Goal Trap: Embrace Curiosity and Tiny Experiments with Anne-Laure Le Cunff

Escape the Goal Trap: Embrace Curiosity and Tiny Experiments with Anne-Laure Le Cunff

In this episode, Anne-Laure Le Cunff, discusses how to go from procrastination to action using the power of tiny experiments. Most advice about self-improvement assumes you know where you’re going, bu...

1 Jul 20251h

The Hidden Cause of Procrastination and How to Finally Move Forward with Taylor Jacobson

The Hidden Cause of Procrastination and How to Finally Move Forward with Taylor Jacobson

In this episode, Taylor Jacobson discusses the hidden cause of procrastination and how to finally move forward in your life. He explores how transformation rarely feels graceful, how repressed emotion...

27 Jun 202558min

Populært innen Fakta

fastlegen
dine-penger-pengeradet
relasjonspodden-med-dora-thorhallsdottir-kjersti-idem
treningspodden
foreldreradet
merry-quizmas
dopet
sovnlos
jakt-og-fiskepodden
rss-strid-de-norske-borgerkrigene
sinnsyn
podme-bio-3
rss-kull
gravid-uke-for-uke
hverdagspsyken
rss-kunsten-a-leve
tomprat-med-gunnar-tjomlid
fryktlos
level-up-med-anniken-binz
rss-var-forste-kaffe