The Psychology of your 20s13 Mai 2025

295. Why we have vulnerability hangovers

Have you ever opened up, shared something real, and then immediately regretted it? That post-overshare spiral—the “why did I say that?” dread—is what we call a vulnerability hangover. In this episode, we dive deep into the psychology behind why vulnerability can feel so physically and emotionally intense, even when it’s necessary, honest, and healing.

We explore:

The two types of vulnerability hangovers (and why both are valid)
Why alcohol, trauma dumping, and people-pleasing make it worse
How shame and past betrayals shape our fear of being seen
The neuroscience behind your emotional "come down"
What to do the day after you said too much
How to make vulnerability a tool for connection—not something to fear

Plus, we answer listener questions on post-therapy crashes, drunk confessions, and how to stay open even when it’s hard. If you’re sitting with a case of the cringe, this episode is for you.

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