295. Why we have vulnerability hangovers

295. Why we have vulnerability hangovers

Have you ever opened up, shared something real, and then immediately regretted it? That post-overshare spiral—the “why did I say that?” dread—is what we call a vulnerability hangover. In this episode, we dive deep into the psychology behind why vulnerability can feel so physically and emotionally intense, even when it’s necessary, honest, and healing.

We explore:

  • The two types of vulnerability hangovers (and why both are valid)
  • Why alcohol, trauma dumping, and people-pleasing make it worse
  • How shame and past betrayals shape our fear of being seen
  • The neuroscience behind your emotional "come down"
  • What to do the day after you said too much
  • How to make vulnerability a tool for connection—not something to fear

Plus, we answer listener questions on post-therapy crashes, drunk confessions, and how to stay open even when it’s hard. If you’re sitting with a case of the cringe, this episode is for you.

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11. The Psychology of Friendship Breakups - the fizzle, toxic people and forgiveness

11. The Psychology of Friendship Breakups - the fizzle, toxic people and forgiveness

In this episode we are discussing the psychology behind friendship breakups - why we need to move on from people, the types of toxic friends to look out for, the best way to breakup with a friend and more! Tune in for some juicy psychology and lessons for our 20’s.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

16 Sep 202125min

10. The Psychology of Climate Anxiety with Tenaya

10. The Psychology of Climate Anxiety with Tenaya

Today we are discussing the psychology of climate anxiety especially in light of recent announcements of a code red for humanity due to climate change. I’m joined by Tenaya, our in house expert on all things sustainability, to discuss how climate anxiety manifests, the psychology of climate denial and how to take care of yourself when faced by dread about the future of the planet. References / things talked about: The IPCC report: https://www.ipcc.ch/report/ar6/wg1/ Tim Hollo’s article on climate doomism being as harmful as climate denial: https://www.canberratimes.com.au/story/7385966/climate-doomism-is-the-new-climate-denial/ Fire Country by Victor Steffensen: https://www.hardiegrant.com/au/publishing/bookfinder/book/fire-country-by-victor-steffensen/9781741177268 Rob Willer on moral reframing in political conversations: https://www.ted.com/talks/robb_willer_how_to_have_better_political_conversations/See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

4 Sep 202158min

9. The Psychology of Lockdown - a quick check-in and tips and tricks ✨

9. The Psychology of Lockdown - a quick check-in and tips and tricks ✨

Howdy! This week we have a little lockdown snapshot where I delve into the psychology behind why lockdowns can be such a killer for our mental health. Indulge in some of my tips abs tricks for staying sane and as always, get vaccinated and stay COVID safe.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

29 Aug 202121min

8. The Psychology of Unrequited Love - why we love those who don’t love us back.

8. The Psychology of Unrequited Love - why we love those who don’t love us back.

This weeks episode is a deep and highly personal one. Hold onto your horses. We discuss unrequited love - why we feel it, how to fix it and whether it is truly what we can call love ❤️😢See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

21 Aug 202135min

7. Would Maddy, Meg and Jemma get into Oxford?

7. Would Maddy, Meg and Jemma get into Oxford?

It’s a bit of a different episode this week! We decided to take the all souls Oxford College entrance exam and answer some of the hardest questions in psychology that are asked of potential students. What are our answers? Listen in to find out.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

12 Aug 20211h 8min

6. The Psychology of Jealousy - why we feel so insecure, lessons from polyamory and more

6. The Psychology of Jealousy - why we feel so insecure, lessons from polyamory and more

This week we discuss jealousy - the green monster - and break down where jealousy originated from, it’s emotional core and how we can address these feelings.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

7 Aug 202126min

5. Let’s Get Friendly with Phoebe - emotional labour, high integrative complexity and boundaries

5. Let’s Get Friendly with Phoebe - emotional labour, high integrative complexity and boundaries

The second instalment of our let’s get friendly episodes with the glorious Phoebe, here to talk about situationships, setting healthy boundaries and climate anxiety.  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

31 Jul 20211h

4. The Psychology of FoMO

4. The Psychology of FoMO

This episode we discuss the fear of missing out - where FoMO comes, why it feels so shit and potential solutions to stop worrying about what you’re missing out on.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

24 Jul 202121min

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