When Sex Feels Like a Chore: Reclaiming Pleasure and Connection

When Sex Feels Like a Chore: Reclaiming Pleasure and Connection

In this episode of the Sex with Emily podcast, Dr. Emily teams up with Dr. Scott Lyons, a licensed holistic psychologist and trauma expert, to tackle one of the most common relationship challenges: when sex starts feeling like just another item on your to-do list. From exploring why intimacy can lose its spark to practical strategies for reigniting desire, this conversation gets to the heart of what happens when pleasure becomes obligation. We dive deep into the psychology behind sexual disconnection, examining how stress, routine, and unspoken resentments can transform what should be joyful into something that feels burdensome. Dr. Scott shares insights on nervous system regulation and how our bodies respond when we're overwhelmed, while Dr. Emily offers practical advice on communication, scheduling intimacy, and the importance of prioritizing pleasure throughout the week—not just in the bedroom. This episode addresses the reality that many couples face: mismatched libidos, the pressure to perform, and the challenge of maintaining sexual connection amid life's demands. We explore how to shift from duty-based sex to desire-driven intimacy, the role of variety and spontaneity in long-term relationships, and why "priming for pleasure" throughout the week is essential for a fulfilling sex life. Show Notes: 00:00:00 - When Sex Becomes a Chore 03:00:00 - The Psychology of Sexual Obligation06:41:00 - Mismatched Libidos and Relationship Dynamics 08:26:00 - Breaking the Routine: Adding Variety and Play 11:07:00 - Communication vs. Avoidance in Sexual Relationships 15:38:00 - Priming for Pleasure Throughout the Week 18:06:00 - Scheduling Sex: Intentional vs. Spontaneous Intimacy 23:10:00 - From Duty to Desire: Practical Strategies 28:14:00 - Building Anticipation and Connection 30:04:00 - Redefining Sexual Success and Satisfaction Whether you're feeling disconnected from your partner or just want to prevent sex from becoming routine, this episode offers compassionate guidance and actionable strategies for reclaiming the joy and connection that intimate relationships can provide. Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!:https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ Let's get social: Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/ X https://twitter.com/sexwithemily Facebook https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily Threads https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily Let's text: Sign up here https://sexwithemily.com/text

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Episode 328 - She's Faking It

Episode 328 - She's Faking It

Sorry guys, she might be faking it. Emily talks about the signs she’s faking it and the ultimate sign she’s actually about to orgasm. Not faking it extremely important for both women and men’s sexual experience. Emily describes her dream man and whether or not she would pose for Playboy. Also, what someone’s profile picture says about their personality. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

3 Nov 201144min

Episode 326 - Sex Bucket List

Episode 326 - Sex Bucket List

Emily talks Halloween nights and going home to Michigan for Thanksgiving, and Menace hooks up Emily's intern in Las Vegas. Emily and Menace compare what’s on their sex bucket list and discuss the most fun places to have quickies. A man confuses a donkey with a prostitute, semen strips, female ejaculation, why porn might cause erectile dysfunction, accidental nymphos, dating on demand, female ejaculation, should a guy ask to borrow money on a date?, a caller tests out Tenga male masturbation toys, and Emily and Menace compare what's on their sexual bucket lists. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1 Nov 20111h 3min

Episode 325 - Trick or Cheating

Episode 325 - Trick or Cheating

Emily goes on the Today show in New York and Menace gets sex wounds on his birthday. Dating On Demand videos are taking over, and is Halloween an excuse to be slutty? Kim K files for divorce, Penis pumps enhance your member, and masturbation guilt is the curse of the jerking classes. Should Emily sign up for E Harmony? And Trick-or-cheating: what are the signs you are being cheated on? Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

31 Okt 201156min

Semen Recipes

Semen Recipes

We talk about sex, relationships, and everything in between. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

28 Okt 201158min

Slump Buster

Slump Buster

Why women love the bad boy, why Menace isn't having sex, serial monogamy, how to talk dirty, making noise during sex, losing your virginity at 30, why you might need a "slump-buster," how to be a better kisser, what being on break really means to your relationship, how long foreplay should last, how to undress your partner, and how important is an emotional connection during foreplay? Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

27 Okt 201156min

Cougar Catching

Cougar Catching

Emily's obsession with the Fyre Tv porn box, what should Emily name her new dog?, what's got Emily smiling so big, women who advertise their break-ups online, Emily's almost nip-slip, a celeb mom catches crabs, why to stay friends with your exes, a "Cross-Legged Strike," do men like the reverse cowgirl position?, how long should sex should last?, how to make a woman feel special, tips for approaching older women, dominating your partner in bed, the right way to turn a date down, the most sensitive part of the penis and taking advantage of foreskin. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

26 Okt 20111h 1min

Deep Orgasm

Deep Orgasm

Emily talks with guest Dr. Jallen Rix about stimulating the prostate. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

25 Okt 20119min

Dirty Talk

Dirty Talk

Free Friday: Emily is going to New York City and gives Menace his "special" birthday gift, does "sexting" qualify as cheating? Does penis size matter? Small town women vs. big city women and who won the Treasure Island Music Festival raffle for Jimmyjane products and Emily's book Hot Sex Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

21 Okt 201147min

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