Dear Nina: Conversations About Friendship17 Jun 2025

#151 - Myths Around Adult Friendships: with therapist Jazzmyn Proctor

What does it mean to have a close friendship in adulthood? How important is history in a friendship? What does (realistic) quality time with a friend look like when you're no longer in school?

Therapist and podcast host, Jazzmyn Proctor, joins me to bust some of the most common myths she sees in her work with clients. This conversation offers a grounded, kind, and honest look at how we can rethink what adult friendship should look like.

WE DISCUSS:

Why depth doesn’t equal frequency—and what actually builds emotional closeness
How to let quality time evolve in your adult life instead of trying to recreate the past
The trap of overvaluing history in friendships
Why the phrase “no new friends” might be holding you back
When “friendship takes work” goes too far
The often-discussed "trio problem" gets a mention!

MEET JAZZMYN PROCTOR

Jazzmyn Proctor—your go-to therapist and the powerhouse host of the All Our Parts podcast! Jazzmyn is all about helping you find your vibe, face life’s curveballs, and come out stronger. From navigating the highs and lows of love and relationships to embracing self-discovery and smashing through obstacles, she’s here to hype you up every step of the way.

She knows that everyone’s journey is unique, and her mission? To help you unlock your full potential and level up your mental health game. So, if you're ready to live your best life, hit play on All Our Parts and let Jazzmyn guide you straight to your happy place! Find Jazzmyn on Instagram @healingwithjazzmyn and TikTok too!

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