Why You’ve Lost Desire in Your Relationship (And How to Get It Back) l ft. Esther Perel

Why You’ve Lost Desire in Your Relationship (And How to Get It Back) l ft. Esther Perel

Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!:https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ In this episode of Sex with Emily, world-renowned psychotherapist Esther Perel joins us for an intimate conversation about the complexities of modern love, desire, and relationships. From her groundbreaking work on infidelity to her insights on maintaining passion in long-term partnerships, Esther shares the wisdom that has helped millions navigate the tension between security and excitement in love. We explore Esther's core philosophy that desire is not something you have—it's something you cultivate. She breaks down the fundamental paradox of modern relationships: love seeks closeness and security, while desire craves space, novelty, and mystery. We discuss how to integrate these opposing forces and why the question "Can you want what you already have?" is central to sustaining passion over time. Esther reveals why eroticism is truly a state of mind, how pleasure connects directly to self-worth, and her revolutionary perspective on infidelity—that sometimes people don't go elsewhere to find another person, but to find another version of themselves. We also dive into her new card game "Where Should We Begin," designed to foster vulnerability and deep connection through storytelling. This conversation addresses the unrealistic expectations we place on one partner to be our everything, practical tools for managing relationship anxiety, and why modern love requires us to calibrate rather than abandon our expectations. Whether you're single, coupled, or somewhere in between, Esther's insights offer a roadmap for creating more authentic, passionate connections. Timestamps 0:00 - Introduction 2:45 - The evolution from duty to desire 8:02 - Can we experience desire and deep love simultaneously? 11:20 - "I turn myself off when..." vs "I turn myself on when..." 16:00 - Pleasure vs. performance 19:09 - The ice cream exercise 25:52 - One person can't be everything 31:14 - Understanding infidelity 35:10 - Playing the relationship game 44:00 - Dealing with anxiety in love

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Episode 348 - The Future of Fellatio

Episode 348 - The Future of Fellatio

Emily helps teaches a kissing workshop at Good Vibrations. A guest on the show askedher to be his demonstration model. Emily agreed to kiss him in front of a classroom of people (all for the sake of helping people of course). Her advice: kiss your partner the way you want to be kissed. Ask them to kiss you back in the same way and then switch. Also, the future of fellatio is an Masque oral gel strip that tastes like Mango. Emily gives tips on oral sex and open-relationships without jealousy. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1 Des 201133min

Episode 344 - Why They Didn't Call

Episode 344 - Why They Didn't Call

Emily knows that men fake orgasms too but proclaims they aren’t as good as it as women. Emily talks about how to have more confidence and the stuff you should never say on a first date. Also, why they didn’t call you back - unless they have amnesia, it's usually not because they lost your number. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

25 Nov 201145min

No on fake O

No on fake O

Sorry guys, she might have faked it. Emily and her assistant Kelsi talk about why women fake it and how to tell if she's not really orgasming. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

22 Nov 201121min

Episode 339 - Kinky

Episode 339 - Kinky

Adult film star Pony from Kink, says she’ll try everything twice. Emily and Pony talk about polyamorous relationships, BDSM for beginners, getting shocked by tasers for pleasure (not for resisting arrest), and Divine Bitches. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

18 Nov 201133min

Episode 336 - 7 Year Itch

Episode 336 - 7 Year Itch

Emily is excited because she has lots of dates coming up. Hopefully none of them are living with their mother. Also, science gets closer to understanding the female orgasm. Family law attorney Erik Newton joins the show and talks about the truths behind the "7 year itch” in marriage, Facebook's influence on divorce, and what you have to discuss with your partner before getting married. Also, can making a prenuptial agreement be romantic? Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

15 Nov 201159min

Episode 335 - Tips From A Sultry Vixen: Jessica Drake

Episode 335 - Tips From A Sultry Vixen: Jessica Drake

Emily talks with vixen Jessica Drake about Wicked Sex, anal sex tips and butt plugs. Emily and Menace debate whether men are intimidated by successful women and if the notion ‘once a cheater, always a cheater’ is true. Also, hand job fetishes, and special positions for giving fellatio. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

14 Nov 201148min

Episode 331 - Rough Sex... and Rougher Sex!

Episode 331 - Rough Sex... and Rougher Sex!

Emily has a blind date and divulges about what she really does at night. Menace plans his dream wedding and Emily talks shotgun weddings. Also, extreme manscaping and etiquette for rough sex, including but not limited to spanking, wrist holding, hair pulling, and biting. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

8 Nov 201146min

Episode 330 - How to Successfully Date Online

Episode 330 - How to Successfully Date Online

Online dating is about marketing yourself. The first message you send someone is extremely important. Be specific and show them that you have common interests. Emily gives essential online dating advice to improve your experience and success rate. Emily and Menace discuss the best famous landmarks to do it at, the pros and cons of dating a criminal, and should you tell her about your foot fetish? Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

7 Nov 201152min

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