Why You’ve Lost Desire in Your Relationship (And How to Get It Back) l ft. Esther Perel

Why You’ve Lost Desire in Your Relationship (And How to Get It Back) l ft. Esther Perel

Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!:https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ In this episode of Sex with Emily, world-renowned psychotherapist Esther Perel joins us for an intimate conversation about the complexities of modern love, desire, and relationships. From her groundbreaking work on infidelity to her insights on maintaining passion in long-term partnerships, Esther shares the wisdom that has helped millions navigate the tension between security and excitement in love. We explore Esther's core philosophy that desire is not something you have—it's something you cultivate. She breaks down the fundamental paradox of modern relationships: love seeks closeness and security, while desire craves space, novelty, and mystery. We discuss how to integrate these opposing forces and why the question "Can you want what you already have?" is central to sustaining passion over time. Esther reveals why eroticism is truly a state of mind, how pleasure connects directly to self-worth, and her revolutionary perspective on infidelity—that sometimes people don't go elsewhere to find another person, but to find another version of themselves. We also dive into her new card game "Where Should We Begin," designed to foster vulnerability and deep connection through storytelling. This conversation addresses the unrealistic expectations we place on one partner to be our everything, practical tools for managing relationship anxiety, and why modern love requires us to calibrate rather than abandon our expectations. Whether you're single, coupled, or somewhere in between, Esther's insights offer a roadmap for creating more authentic, passionate connections. Timestamps 0:00 - Introduction 2:45 - The evolution from duty to desire 8:02 - Can we experience desire and deep love simultaneously? 11:20 - "I turn myself off when..." vs "I turn myself on when..." 16:00 - Pleasure vs. performance 19:09 - The ice cream exercise 25:52 - One person can't be everything 31:14 - Understanding infidelity 35:10 - Playing the relationship game 44:00 - Dealing with anxiety in love

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Episode 328 - She's Faking It

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Episode 326 - Sex Bucket List

Episode 326 - Sex Bucket List

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Episode 325 - Trick or Cheating

Episode 325 - Trick or Cheating

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31 Okt 201156min

Semen Recipes

Semen Recipes

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28 Okt 201158min

Slump Buster

Slump Buster

Why women love the bad boy, why Menace isn't having sex, serial monogamy, how to talk dirty, making noise during sex, losing your virginity at 30, why you might need a "slump-buster," how to be a better kisser, what being on break really means to your relationship, how long foreplay should last, how to undress your partner, and how important is an emotional connection during foreplay? Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

27 Okt 201156min

Cougar Catching

Cougar Catching

Emily's obsession with the Fyre Tv porn box, what should Emily name her new dog?, what's got Emily smiling so big, women who advertise their break-ups online, Emily's almost nip-slip, a celeb mom catches crabs, why to stay friends with your exes, a "Cross-Legged Strike," do men like the reverse cowgirl position?, how long should sex should last?, how to make a woman feel special, tips for approaching older women, dominating your partner in bed, the right way to turn a date down, the most sensitive part of the penis and taking advantage of foreskin. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

26 Okt 20111h 1min

Deep Orgasm

Deep Orgasm

Emily talks with guest Dr. Jallen Rix about stimulating the prostate. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

25 Okt 20119min

Dirty Talk

Dirty Talk

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