209 - Subtle Trauma, People-Pleasing & Reclaiming Calm for Autistic Women

209 - Subtle Trauma, People-Pleasing & Reclaiming Calm for Autistic Women

In Episode 209 of our “Things That REALLY Matter” series on Beyond Chronic Burnout, Carole Jean Whittington and Becca Lory Hector dive deep into the often-overlooked world of subtle trauma—especially how it uniquely impacts autistic women.


Together, they explore how lifelong patterns like people-pleasing, hyper-vigilance, emotional suppression, and the fear of being “too much” are often rooted in trauma we were never taught to recognize. From personal stories to practical tools, this episode is a must-watch if you’re navigating burnout, masking, or the struggle to prioritize your own needs.


💬 “People-pleasing at the expense of your own well-being is a giant trap. It masquerades as politeness or kindness.” — Becca Lory Hector

💬 “I reclaim calm. It is mine. It belongs to me.” — Carole Jean Whittington


🔎 Topics Covered:


  • Subtle trauma in autistic women

  • The impact of masking and emotional suppression

  • Communication, boundaries, and burnout recovery

  • Self-worth without performance

  • How to reclaim calm and rest without guilt

🎧 Listen to the full episode on your favorite podcast platform or watch right here.


🔗 Download the free checklist: 22 Subtle Signs of Trauma 📬 Get weekly insights inside The Recharge: https://energize.whittingtonwellbeing.com/products/courses/view/1180958


#BeyondChronicBurnout #AutisticWomen #SubtleTrauma #NeurodivergentBurnout #PeoplePleasing #SelfWorth #AutismAndTrauma #ReclaimRest #AutisticVoices #BurnoutRecovery

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