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Compulsion Test: www.beyondcompulsionacademy.com/scorecardIn this episode, Tom and Mari delve into the themes presented in 'Dopamine Nation' by Dr. Anna Lembke, exploring the complexities of addiction, the role of vulnerability in recovery, and the misconceptions surrounding dopamine. They discuss the importance of rational responses to urges, the dangers of restriction leading to binging, and the impact of language on outcomes. The conversation emphasises the need for practical solutions and community support in overcoming addiction, while also critiquing the influence of big pharma on treatment approaches.Chapters00:00 Introduction to Dopamine Nation05:51 The Complexity of Overcoming Addiction11:49 The Misconception of Dopamine in Addiction17:57 The Role of Language in Addiction23:52 The Importance of Honesty in Recovery34:31 The Illusion of Control and Addiction40:35 Collective Ignorance Around Addiction48:28 Understanding Pleasure and Reward54:32 Pressing on Pain and Finding Balance01:00:12 Finding Purpose and Immersion in Life

31 Aug 1h 3min

The Reality of Porn Addiction Free e-book: www.beyondcompulsionacademy.com/rememberlettersCompulsion test: www.beyondcompulsionacademy.com/scorecardAt the age of 17, Adam tried NoNut November for the first time.He tried self-improvement and NoFap, but nothing worked.In this episode of the Help is Here - Beyond Porn Addiction podcast, Tom and Mari talk with Adam about his experience of NoFap streaks and then using the Beyond Compulsion method to transform his life for good.#pornaddiction #nofap #nonutnovember #addictionrecovery

22 Aug 56min

Compulsion test, get a score out of 100: www.beyondcompulsionacademy.comRead the Remember Letters, free e-book: www.beyondcompulsionacademy.com/rememberlettersIn this episode of the Help is Here podcast, hosts Tom and Mari delve into the book 'Your Brain on Porn' by Gary Wilson, discussing its insights and shortcomings regarding porn addiction. They critique the advice given in the book, emphasizing the importance of understanding the underlying compulsive behaviors rather than merely removing triggers. The conversation highlights the need for a shift in focus from abstinence to gaining control over one's desires, and the detrimental effects of relying on ineffective strategies like distraction and environmental changes. They stress the significance of emotional awareness and education in overcoming addiction, while also sharing personal experiences and insights from clients. The episode concludes with a call to action for listeners to seek out resources that provide a realistic understanding of porn addiction and its impacts.Chapters00:00 Introduction to the Podcast and Book Overview03:45 The Role of Personal Experience in Overcoming Addiction05:33 Separating Porn Addiction from Real-Life Relationships08:28 The Importance of Self-Understanding in Recovery10:50 Shifting Goals: From Abstinence to Control12:53 Criticism of Common Recovery Advice15:47 The Ineffectiveness of Distraction Techniques18:22 The Role of Environment in Addiction Recovery20:02 The Path to Freedom from Addiction22:41 Understanding Triggers and Urges24:47 The Cycle of Compulsive Behavior26:29 Rethinking Compulsive Desires28:04 The Misunderstanding of Emotional Triggers30:06 The Role of Misinformation in Addiction31:58 Breaking Free from the Cycle34:26 The Importance of Education in Recovery36:14 The Dangers of Streak Mentality39:31 Neuroscience of Addiction and Compulsion42:17 The Reality of Porn Addiction44:42 Sharing Real Experiences to Educate OthersTakeawaysThe book 'Your Brain on Porn' offers valuable insights but also contains misleading advice.Understanding the brain's response to porn is crucial for recovery.Advice to remove triggers is often ineffective in the long term.Separating porn addiction from real-life relationships is essential for recovery.The goal should be to gain control over compulsive desires, not just to stop watching porn.Emotional awareness plays a significant role in managing urges.Streaks and counting days can reinforce addiction rather than help overcome it.Intermittent use of porn can strengthen addictive pathways.Education about addiction is vital for effective recovery strategies.Personal accounts of addiction can provide valuable insights for those struggling.

19 Aug 47min

Compulsion test, get a score out of 100: www.beyondcompulsionacademy.comRead the Remember Letters, free e-book: www.beyondcompulsionacademy.com/rememberlettersSummaryIn this episode, Tom and Mari delve into The Freedom Model, a book that challenges traditional views on addiction, presenting it as a social construct rather than a disease. They discuss the importance of empowerment through language, the nature of compulsive desire, and the impact of pain and memory on addiction behavior. The conversation critiques conventional rehab methods, highlights the role of misinformation, and emphasizes the need for education in overcoming addiction. They also explore the normalisation of compulsive behaviours in society and the importance of making rational choices in a digital age.Chapters00:00 Introduction to The Freedom Model03:05 Exploring Addiction and Social Constructs06:02 The Role of Thoughts and Beliefs in Addiction08:54 Understanding Compulsive Behavior and Tolerance12:06 The Impact of Intermittent Reinforcement14:48 The Limitations of Traditional Rehab Methods18:10 The Influence of Modern Media on Addiction20:52 Natural Recovery vs. Structured Programs23:55 The Need for Education in Overcoming Addiction27:11 Final Thoughts on The Freedom Model and Its Implications31:35 Navigating Confusion in Addiction Recovery32:56 Understanding Urges and Choices34:49 The Importance of Addressing Compulsive Desire36:18 Focusing on Benefits of Abstaining38:18 The Role of Junkie Thinking40:14 The Impact of Environment on Addiction42:52 The Debate on Substance Addiction45:29 The Challenge of Defining Addiction46:35 The Need for Practical Solutions48:36 Changing Thought Patterns50:41 The Normalization of Compulsive Behaviors52:08 The Future of Addiction and Society54:29 The Consequences of Modern Living58:08 Final Thoughts on the Freedom Model

16 Aug 1h

In this episode of the Help is Here podcast, me and Mari Paulus discuss 14 Marcus Aurelius quotes in the context of porn addiction and the Beyond Compulsion method.Transform your thinking to transform your life. Start to shift your perspective with the free training video at www.beyondcompulsionacademy.comRead the stories of other men who have struggled with a porn addiction at https://www.beyondcompulsionacademy.com/rememberletters#nofap  #selfimprovement #pornaddiction #trans #pornaddictionrecovery #nofap #femdomaddiction #femdom #stoicism #marcusaurelius #meditations

10 Aug 1h 16min

In this episode of the Help is Here podcast, I talk about why your choice in the present moment is key for overcoming addiction.Transform your thinking to transform your life. Start to shift your perspective with the free training video at www.beyondcompulsionacademy.com#nofap  #selfimprovement #pornaddiction #trans #pornaddictionrecovery #nofap #femdomaddiction #femdom

4 Aug 5min

In this episode of the Help is Here podcast, me and Mari Paulus dissect and analyse The Easypeasy method.Transform your thinking to transform your life. Start to shift your perspective with the free training video at www.beyondcompulsionacademy.com#nofap  #selfimprovement #pornaddiction #trans #pornaddictionrecovery #nofap #femdomaddiction #femdom

1 Aug 1h 9min