EP455 – Soloamory: The Ultimate Self-Love Relationship
Sexology9 Sep 2025

EP455 – Soloamory: The Ultimate Self-Love Relationship

Welcome to Episode 455 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m excited to be joined by Dr. Elisabeth Sheff who speaks to me about consensual non-monogamy, polyamory, and soloamory.


In this episode, Dr. Eli shares her personal journey navigating relationships with both monogamous and polyamorous partners, and how those experiences shaped her professional research. We talk in-depth about "soloamory" which refers to prioritizing one's relationship with themselves, often in the form of self-love. It is a form of autosexuality/autoromance and a conscious choice to live a single life, valuing autonomy and personal growth over traditional relationship milestones like marriage or cohabitation.


Dr. Elisabeth “Eli” Sheff is a researcher, expert witness, coach, speaker, and educational consultant. With a PhD in Sociology and certification as a Sexuality Educator from AASECT, Dr. Eli specializes in gender and sexual minority families, consensual non-monogamy, and kink/BDSM. Sheff is the foremost academic expert on polyamorous families with children, and her 25+ year Polyamorous Family Study is the only longitudinal study of poly families with children to date.


In this episode, you will hear:


· Defining Consensual Non-Monogamy

· Understanding Polyamory And Soloamory

· How Early Relationships Shape Our Beliefs

· Mono-Poly Relationship Dynamics

· Distinguishing Between Jealousy And Insecurity

· Why Some People Are Wired For Multiplicity

· The Role Of Autonomy In Healthy Relationships

· Healing Through Solo Amory And Self-Love

· The Importance Of Therapy And The Right Therapist Fit

· Resources And Tools From Dr. Elizabeth Sheff


Thank you to our sponsor WIFEY, the premiere adult entertainment platform that breaks down stigmas around modern relationships, and fosters an open, shame-free space to talk about love, trust, and sex.

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