In Bed With Alexa: Have Better Sex25 Sep 2025

Gay Hookup Culture, Pretty Dicks & Settling Down (ft. Jeff Perla)

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa ) gets in bed with Jeff Perla, host of Oh Dear I’m Queer, for a candid, funny, and unfiltered conversation about queer sex, dating, and intimacy.

We discuss:

Morning hookups, blowjob confessions, and the idea of “nut clarity”
Seeing Jeff's nudes & live reactions
Snapchat vs. Instagram, hookup apps, and why Jeff made hoe cards while Alexa makes hoe friendship bracelets
Bold ways of flirting IRL
Fire Island and Hamptons stories, including Jeff’s secret hookup with “Chad,” a DL late-blooming bi guy
Sex toys, magic wands, vibrating cock rings, and why toys aren’t just for women
Gay hookup culture, Grindr chats, and whether there’s really a “top shortage”
Therapy insights: Jeff wants to settle down and went to therapy to see if he's the problem
Bi men in gay spaces, biphobia, and the fear of being “left for a woman”
Girls’ gays vs. gays’ gays, and the tension over women in gay bars
Eating disorders, body image, intermittent fasting, and gay pool party pressures
Open relationships, monogamy fears, and rules like “our bed is our bed”
Family dynamics, supportive siblings, grandma’s vibrator advice, and parents learning about OnlyFans
What makes a “pretty dick,” hygiene, cut vs. uncut, and why enthusiasm matters most in oral sex
Grindr bios, faceless profiles, and navigating hookup app etiquette

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