In Bed With Alexa: Have Better Sex25 Sep 2025

Gay Hookup Culture, Pretty Dicks & Settling Down (ft. Jeff Perla)

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa ) gets in bed with Jeff Perla, host of Oh Dear I’m Queer, for a candid, funny, and unfiltered conversation about queer sex, dating, and intimacy.

We discuss:

Morning hookups, blowjob confessions, and the idea of “nut clarity”
Seeing Jeff's nudes & live reactions
Snapchat vs. Instagram, hookup apps, and why Jeff made hoe cards while Alexa makes hoe friendship bracelets
Bold ways of flirting IRL
Fire Island and Hamptons stories, including Jeff’s secret hookup with “Chad,” a DL late-blooming bi guy
Sex toys, magic wands, vibrating cock rings, and why toys aren’t just for women
Gay hookup culture, Grindr chats, and whether there’s really a “top shortage”
Therapy insights: Jeff wants to settle down and went to therapy to see if he's the problem
Bi men in gay spaces, biphobia, and the fear of being “left for a woman”
Girls’ gays vs. gays’ gays, and the tension over women in gay bars
Eating disorders, body image, intermittent fasting, and gay pool party pressures
Open relationships, monogamy fears, and rules like “our bed is our bed”
Family dynamics, supportive siblings, grandma’s vibrator advice, and parents learning about OnlyFans
What makes a “pretty dick,” hygiene, cut vs. uncut, and why enthusiasm matters most in oral sex
Grindr bios, faceless profiles, and navigating hookup app etiquette

Thank you, Beducated, for making this exploration possible. Use code ALEXA to try their platform for free for 24h and, if you love it, get 50% off their yearly pass. 14 day money back guarantee if you don't! Click here to sign up: https://beducate.me/pd2536-alexa

🔥 Want more? Join my ⁠Patreon⁠ for unedited episodes, behind-the-scenes tea on my personal dating & sex life, and access to my Close Friends on Instagram! www.patreon.com/sexwithalexa

Denne episoden er hentet fra en åpen RSS-feed og er ikke publisert av Podme. Den kan derfor inneholde annonser.

Episoder(113)

Vasectomies, ED, Fertility & Post-Nut Clarity (ft. Dr. Jed Kaminetsky)

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets back in bed with urologist Dr. Jed Kaminetsky to unpack everything you need to know about men's sexual health: from vasectomies, erectile dysfunction, testo...

16 Jul 57min

Former Sex Worker on Hiring a Male Escort, OnlyFans & the Loneliness Epidemic (ft. Coral Osborne)

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets back in bed with Coral Osborne (@theunrealcoralosborne), sexologist, intimacy coach for men, former sex worker, and writer. Coral shares how sex work has ch...

9 Jul 56min

Pussy Worship 101: How to Give (and Receive) Pleasure Like a Pro (ft. Ashley Manta)

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets back in bed with sex educator, relationship coach, and OnlyFans creator Ashley Manta for a deep dive into pussy worship, oral sex, receiving pleasure, and w...

2 Jul 51min

Pt.2 - 3 Sluts, 3 Moods: Cream Pies, Pussy Health, & Feeling Chosen (Vee & Elle - Girls Gone Deep)

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets in bed with Vee and Elle from the Girls Gone Deep podcast for Part 2/2. Together they explore whether non-monogamy is really about unmet needs, what happens...

25 Jun 41min

Pt. 1 - 3 Sluts, 3 Moods: Postpartum Sex, Polyamory & Childfree Dating (Vee & Elle - Girls Gone Deep)

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets in bed with Vee and Elle from the Girls Gone Deep podcast for an honest conversation about sexuality, identity, motherhood, non-monogamy, desire, dating, pl...

18 Jun 45min

The Conversation About Porn We're Too Afraid to Have (ft. Noelle Perdue)

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets in bed with porn historian, writer, and adult industry expert Noelle Perdue for a fascinating conversation about pornography, fantasy, sexuality, kink, tech...

11 Jun 56min

The Ethics of Public Sex: Consent, Kink & Social Norms (ft. Tara Michaela)

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets in bed with sex educator Tara Michaela for a nuanced conversation about the ethics of public sex, public play, PDA, kink visibility, consent, social norms, ...

4 Jun 55min

Her Nudes Were Leaked. Now She Helps Victims Get Justice (ft. Norma Buster)

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets in bed with Norma Buster, sex positive victims rights advocate, Chief of Staff at CA Goldberg Law, survivor of image-based abuse, and online sex worker, for...

21 Mai 57min