Gay Hookup Culture, Pretty Dicks & Settling Down (ft. Jeff Perla)

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets in bed with Jeff Perla, host of Oh Dear I’m Queer, for a candid, funny, and unfiltered conversation about queer sex, dating, and intimacy.

We discuss:

• Morning hookups, blowjob confessions, and the idea of “nut clarity”
• Seeing Jeff's nudes & live reactions
• Snapchat vs. Instagram, hookup apps, and why Jeff made hoe cards while Alexa makes hoe friendship bracelets
• Bold ways of flirting IRL
• Fire Island and Hamptons stories, including Jeff’s secret hookup with “Chad,” a DL late-blooming bi guy
• Sex toys, magic wands, vibrating cock rings, and why toys aren’t just for women
• Gay hookup culture, Grindr chats, and whether there’s really a “top shortage”
• Therapy insights: Jeff wants to settle down and went to therapy to see if he's the problem
• Bi men in gay spaces, biphobia, and the fear of being “left for a woman”
• Girls’ gays vs. gays’ gays, and the tension over women in gay bars
• Eating disorders, body image, intermittent fasting, and gay pool party pressures
• Open relationships, monogamy fears, and rules like “our bed is our bed”
• Family dynamics, supportive siblings, grandma’s vibrator advice, and parents learning about OnlyFans
• What makes a “pretty dick,” hygiene, cut vs. uncut, and why enthusiasm matters most in oral sex
• Grindr bios, faceless profiles, and navigating hookup app etiquette

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