Defensiveness and Shutting Down: Interrupt These Frustrating Patterns: Episode 219

Defensiveness and Shutting Down: Interrupt These Frustrating Patterns: Episode 219

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Is the following communication pattern at all familiar to you?

Partner A- attempts to share a feeling or need.

Partner B- wasn't prepared and then gets defensive.

Partner A- gets triggered by the response and feels invalidated.

Partner B- starts shutting down and disengaging.

Partner A- gets reactive and brings up the past or blames.

Partner B- retreats and withdraws their attention, energy and love for a day or even a few.

Imagine if you could finally break this pattern! That is what this episode is all about and you will see a key way to interrupt this pattern to go from disconnection and frustration to connection and understanding.

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