"That wasn't my intention!" The Difference Between Arguing For Intent vs Understanding Impact: Episode 262

"That wasn't my intention!" The Difference Between Arguing For Intent vs Understanding Impact: Episode 262

Have you ever tried to validate your position during an argument by saying "Oh but that wasn't my intention"? Have you noticed how that doesn't help at all? At least in that moment, because it is not the right time. It shows the need to understand the big difference between intent and impact.

In this episode you will hear about how intention doesn't matter in these moments and the more you fight for explaining it, the further down you will go into conflict. You will hear how to switch into acknowledging impact, which is the most important, and only thing, to do when your partner has emotion present.

Resources For Your Relationship:

Join our LIVE FREE WebClass on Nov. 3rd, 2022 - Fight Smarter: Prevent Unnecessary Arguments, Deescalate Emotional Triggers, and Repiar Faster as a Couple.

If that date has already passed then watch the replay WebClass on: The 5 Steps to Fully Repair After an Argument So You Reconnect in Minutes (Instead of Hours, Days, Weeks). Pick a time to watch it here.

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Navigating Stressful Situations Without Turning on Each Other: Episode 398

Navigating Stressful Situations Without Turning on Each Other: Episode 398

Stressful situations are inevitable, but how you handle them together can either strengthen or strain your relationship. In this episode, we talk about the kind of external stress that sneaks up on yo...

3 Jun 202530min

How to Become a Supercommunicator in Your Marriage and Deepen Connection with Charles Duhigg: Episode 397

How to Become a Supercommunicator in Your Marriage and Deepen Connection with Charles Duhigg: Episode 397

What if the key to a deeper, more connected marriage wasn't just about communicating more, but communicating in the right way? In this episode I sit down with Pulitzer Prize winning journalist and bes...

27 Mai 202537min

Codependence vs Interdependence: What's a Healthy Balance of Connection & Boundaries? Episode 396

Codependence vs Interdependence: What's a Healthy Balance of Connection & Boundaries? Episode 396

With all the conflicting relationship advice floating around, like "you shouldn't need your partner" versus "you should be able to lean on them emotionally", it's no wonder couples feel confused about...

21 Mai 202540min

5 Daily Habits That Make You a Happier Couple: Episode 395

5 Daily Habits That Make You a Happier Couple: Episode 395

What if being a happier couple had less to do with big changes—and everything to do with small, intentional daily habits? In this episode, we're breaking down five simple but powerful actions that bri...

13 Mai 202529min

What Women Want in Marriage, Especially Mothers: Episode 394

What Women Want in Marriage, Especially Mothers: Episode 394

Women's needs in marriage evolve—and if you're not paying attention to those changes, disconnection can creep in even when there's love. This is especially true in the seasons of motherhood, when emot...

6 Mai 202529min

The "Love Account" Principle and Why You Feel Connected & Attracted to Each Other vs Not: Episode 393

The "Love Account" Principle and Why You Feel Connected & Attracted to Each Other vs Not: Episode 393

It's easy to assume that love alone should keep you feeling connected, but day-to-day life has a way of pulling couples apart without them even realizing it. In this episode, we break down why feeling...

29 Apr 202524min

When's the Right Time to Bring This Up to My Partner? Knowing the Line Between Expression and Temporary Suppression: Episode 392

When's the Right Time to Bring This Up to My Partner? Knowing the Line Between Expression and Temporary Suppression: Episode 392

Suppose that something is bothering you about your partner. The two options are to express it or to suppress it. Likely you have had moments where you have chosen both options. At times when you have...

22 Apr 202533min

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