Calm AF | Overthinking, Anxiety & Nervous System Regulation24 Aug 2022

Mindfully Relentless is Relentless AF

If you want to become your true Future Self, you MUST be relentlessly committed to the things that matter. Because it won't happen overnight, it won't happen without failures, and it won't happen the way you think it will.

Personally speaking, when it comes to MY one precious life, when it comes to being ALIVE in my life instead of surviving my life…absolutely relentless. Once I realized this about myself, I started thinking about all the other areas of my life that I've experienced transformation in.

The key was being relentlessly committed to the things that REALLY mattered.

I didn't want to be in a marriage where I groaned every time my husband came home from work. I want to be HAPPY when I hear that garage door open. If I'm gonna be with this person ALL the time, I want it to feel like I GET to have a forever sleepover. So, I worked relentlessly on the things I needed to work on.

It MATTERED to me to create a home that felt nurturing and calm. So I relentlessly committed to decluttering and cleaning EVEN when it felt like it was taking forever and I had two very little kiddos and approximately 20 minutes a day to work on it.

Deep friendship connections MATTERED to me. Being part of a community of powerful women mattered to me, so I relentlessly pursued it – albeit in a non-creepy way.

I had big audacious goals for my coaching business because it MATTERS to me that more women learn how to be empowered, set boundaries, stop people pleasing and energy managing so they LOVE their life so I relentlessly committed to creating this. It took me FIVE YEARS to really gain any traction but I never stopped. I stopped TONS of projects, tons of hobbies, tons of special interests. But I never stopped my coaching trajectory.

If you want to become your Future Self, manifest a life you love, you MUST be relentlessly committed because it's NOT going to happen overnight, it's NOT going to happen without LOTS of failures and it's NOT going to happen the way you think it will.

Today I'm going to share with you the most COMMON obstacles that take us off the relentlessly committed path. Because your relentless self is in there, and her path is waiting.

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