126. Why Narcissists HATE When People Talk To Each Other Unsupervised
Narcissists HATE people talking. Why? Because they can't control what is said. They don't know what is said. That creates uncertainty and reduces their power.And yes, they will happily talk behind oth...
4 Okt 202533min
125. How To Identify Conflicting Goals, or Why Relationships with Narcissists Cannot Work
One of the most helpful tools in systemic therapy is identifying primary and secondary goals. Otherwise we get hypnotised by words.I say I want to run a marathon but I smoke, eat pizza and don't even ...
26 Sep 202533min
124. Reputation Destruction & Narcissists: How To Debunk & Charlie Kirk's Assassination
One of the first things narcissists do to make people take sides, such as after a break up, is Reputation Destruction. They will not only gossip, but also lie. Fabricate events. Mix truths and lies. A...
26 Sep 20251h 20min
123. Legitimate Criticism? How To Find Out (With A Real World Example)
How can we tell if criticism is legitimate? Let's take a comment left on this podcast to see how we can test criticism to take onboard anything worthwhile, and avoid low level thinking / toxicity masq...
30 Aug 202543min
122. Grieving a "Narcissist" The Right Way
Grief helps us move on. But grieving a "narcissist" presents specific challenges. Get it wrong, and we're stuck for too long. But get it right, and we can recover faster.Elisabeth Kubler-Ross identifi...
28 Jul 202534min
121. How Narcissists Use TONE To Control Use
Ever notice how narcissists (and others) use tone to mock someone they want us to disagree with? Sometimes it's baby voice: "And they said "You're unweasonable." Hahaha!".Why? It subtly signals to us ...
29 Jun 202536min
120. Clear Thinking Beats Narcissists: Happy Birthday To A Major Inspiration of This Podcast And What You Can Do
Life during and after toxic relationships can feel like hell. And sometimes we find helpful ideas that help us get our life back together. I try to share those, and a major source of those ideas has b...
8 Jun 202551min
119. Is Shame How Narcissists Hijack Us? Some Thoughts
Shame makes us look away, and that makes us MUCH more vulnerable to narcissists. But it's possible to recognise when we're feeling shame and STOP our coping mechanisms to REDUCE our vulnerability.I re...
7 Jun 202548min
