89. Hater Hour: Is “Passion” Worth the Hype? - How to Build a Career You Love
This episode is sponsored by Zocdoc. Go to https://www.zocdoc.com/notforeveryone/ to try it today. __ It’s Hater Hour, babies! Caroline takes us through the many steps in her career path this week, with key takeaways along the way. She covers using disparate skills to create something new, the logistics of quitting your day job, and how to sit in discomfort to make your dreams happen. She also provides some deep takes on what “passion” even means when it comes to your work, cultivating hobbies, and how trying something for fun can lead to unexpected outcomes. If you’re caught between passion and responsibility, this one’s for you. __ This episode was produced by our prince, Abi Newhouse. __ Share with a friend! Follow, rate, and review on your favorite podcasting app! Subscribe on YOUTUBE for full episode video: https://www.youtube.com/@Not4EveryonePod Plus follow us on INSTAGRAM for more: @not4everyonepod @thegoodsitter @jzdebakey And don't forget about our MERCH store: https://not4everyonepod.myshopify.com/ __ Intro Music: “Doja Dance” by PALA __ DISCLAIMER: All opinions are our own. We are not therapists or health professionals, or professional of any kind, really. Please see your own professional or counselor for professional support. Do your research and be safe!
12 Sep 20241h 8min
88. Not for Internet Sleuthing + “Once a Cheater, Always a Cheater”
Get up to 40% off at cozyearth.com/notforeveryone. Use code NOTFOREVERYONE. __ After the long weekend, Jess and Caroline have important business to cover. They’re circling back on the F/M/K situation from last week (with new, helpful info!), on Jess’s difficult conversation, and on Jess’s hack for saving money. But that’s not all on this assortment of matters: they also discuss weird baby names, mispronunciations, and why moving sucks so bad. But it’s not over yet! Caroline has done some internet sleuthing and she has a report ready for you, featuring evidence, statistics, and names. Then the duo tackle a WHATADO that questions how appropriate it is to continue dating someone who’s set off that little alarm in the back of your head. Is a cheater always a cheater? The answer may surprise you. __ This episode was produced by our prince, Abi Newhouse. __ Share with a friend! Follow, rate, and review on your favorite podcasting app! Subscribe on YOUTUBE for full episode video: https://www.youtube.com/@Not4EveryonePod Plus follow us on INSTAGRAM for more: @not4everyonepod @thegoodsitter @jzdebakey And don't forget about our MERCH store: https://not4everyonepod.myshopify.com/ __ Intro Music: “Doja Dance” by PALA __ DISCLAIMER: All opinions are our own. We are not therapists or health professionals, or professional of any kind, really. Please see your own professional or counselor for professional support. Do your research and be safe!
5 Sep 20241h 16min
87. Not for Living in Fear + How to Have That Difficult Conversation
Shop now at https://skims.com/. After you place your order, be sure to let them know we sent you! Select "podcast" in the survey and be sure to select our show in the dropdown menu that follows. __ Anyone else feeling wormy? Jess and Caroline are, but that doesn’t stop them from going hard off the bat on a WHATADO about a listener’s boyfriend and best friend hanging out way too much. They discuss what setting boundaries really means, embracing anger, and knowing there will be discomfort when you say what you need. After a brief intermission where a F/M/K situation is parsed out, Jess talks about an impending hard conversation, and Caroline gives her best advice about facing fear, taking notes, and naming the hard part up front. What’s NFE without a little giggle at the end? Enjoy a time Caroline put her foot in her mouth…and the role play for how she’ll fix it. Xoxo fellow worms! __ This episode was produced by our prince, Abi Newhouse. __ Share with a friend! Follow, rate, and review on your favorite podcasting app! Subscribe on YOUTUBE for full episode video: https://www.youtube.com/@Not4EveryonePod Plus follow us on INSTAGRAM for more: @not4everyonepod @thegoodsitter @jzdebakey And don't forget about our MERCH store: https://not4everyonepod.myshopify.com/ __ Intro Music: “Doja Dance” by PALA __ DISCLAIMER: All opinions are our own. We are not therapists or health professionals, or professional of any kind, really. Please see your own professional or counselor for professional support. Do your research and be safe!
29 Aug 20241h 18min
86. Hot Takes Only: Finding Yourself Post Breakup, When to Indulge, and Brat Summer
Get up to 40% off at cozyearth.com/notforeveryone. Use code NOTFOREVERYONE. __ It’s getting hot in here, so gather up your clothes…and get rid of them? Before diving into hot takes, Jess and Caroline talk budget hacks and clothing degradation, culminating in a few ideas for beating the consumerist mindset and some thoughts on what indulging really means. And then, the main event: hot takes galore. Jess and Caroline argue, research, and kook out about emotional support animals, finding yourself, the name Lowery, what qualifies as evening, emails, sleeping on top of the comforter, and trendy terms that drive them crazy. Plus, it’s not mid-2024 if there’s no discussion of what qualifies as Brat Summer. It’s so confusing sometimes to be a girl. __ This episode was produced by our prince, Abi Newhouse. __ Share with a friend! Follow, rate, and review on your favorite podcasting app! Subscribe on YOUTUBE for full episode video: https://www.youtube.com/@Not4EveryonePod Plus follow us on INSTAGRAM for more: @not4everyonepod @thegoodsitter @jzdebakey And don't forget about our MERCH store: https://not4everyonepod.myshopify.com/ __ Intro Music: “Doja Dance” by PALA __ DISCLAIMER: All opinions are our own. We are not therapists or health professionals, or professional of any kind, really. Please see your own professional or counselor for professional support. Do your research and be safe!
22 Aug 20241h 10min
85. Not For Giving Up on People + Why You Should Cry More
Sign up for a $1 per month trial period at shopify.com/notforeveryone. __ Good morning, kooks! Jess and Caroline start this week’s episode off with a nightmare date story featuring the Spy Museum in DC, a forgotten triple-date memory, a very fortunate run-in with a listener, and the most unexpected (or perfectly on brand?) pump-up music you’ll ever encounter. In true Not For Everyone fashion, things get deep when Jess asks Caroline how often she cries. They discuss why we cry, emotional hangovers, and therapy approaches involving the wise mind and the inner child. Plus, the two close the loop on a lost term and a workplace dilemma. And, the pod gets an unexpected shoutout…of the Biblical variety. Amen? __ This episode was produced by our prince, Abi Newhouse. __ Share with a friend! Follow, rate, and review on your favorite podcasting app! Subscribe on YOUTUBE for full episode video: https://www.youtube.com/@Not4EveryonePod Plus follow us on INSTAGRAM for more: @not4everyonepod @thegoodsitter @jzdebakey And don't forget about our MERCH store: https://not4everyonepod.myshopify.com/ __ Intro Music: “Doja Dance” by PALA __ DISCLAIMER: All opinions are our own. We are not therapists or health professionals, or professional of any kind, really. Please see your own professional or counselor for professional support. Do your research and be safe!
15 Aug 20241h 20min
84. Not for Flirty Husbands + The Best Part About Asking for Help
This episode is sponsored by Zocdoc. Go to https://www.zocdoc.com/notforeveryone/ to try it today. __ Your fav duo is back and more upset about things than ever. A WHATADO about a husband being too flirty with friends leads Jess and Caroline to discussions about gray areas in asking people out, partners hanging out with people of the opposite sex, and the difference between conversations and ultimatums. They might even rethink their initial stances on this one. Plus, a new fable, “How the Mean Man at the Gym Became a Sweetie Pie,” has Jess and Caroline ruminating on letting people do things for you, love languages, and helping others feel a sense of purpose. We’re about to sing you a lullaby, so get cozy. *Trigger warning: suicide from 1:07:25 throughout the remainder of episode. This episode was produced by our prince, Abi Newhouse. __ Share with a friend! Follow, rate, and review on your favorite podcasting app! Subscribe on YOUTUBE for full episode video: https://www.youtube.com/@Not4EveryonePod Plus follow us on INSTAGRAM for more: @not4everyonepod @thegoodsitter @jzdebakey And don't forget about our MERCH store: https://not4everyonepod.myshopify.com/ __ Intro Music: “Doja Dance” by PALA Montage Music: Child Dreams by Keys of Moon | https://soundcloud.com/keysofmoon Music promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.com Creative Commons / Attribution 3.0 Unported License (CC BY 3.0) https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/3.0/deed.en_US __ DISCLAIMER: All opinions are our own. We are not therapists or health professionals, or professional of any kind, really. Please see your own professional or counselor for professional support. Do your research and be safe!
8 Aug 20241h 18min
83. Love Letter: Mindset Shifts for Friends and Flings + “If He Wanted to, He Would”
Dear listener, Enclosed is a letter from the heart. It contains: • Advice on that friend who won't refund you for a trip you could no longer make • A reminder that almost every relationship let-down is more gradual than it feels in real time • A mindset shift that will help you build and maintain more fulfilling friend groups • The worst TikTok advice out there, and how to flip it to be semi-useful Plus, stories of love and back shots - from your host Jess herself, as well from your fellow kooks (who are sometimes wiser than the ones doing all the talking). If you're lucky, Abraham Lincoln may even show up. Sincerely, Your lover __ This episode was produced by the resident lover here at NFE, Jess DeBakey. __ Share with a friend! Follow, rate, and review on your favorite podcasting app! Subscribe on YOUTUBE for full episode video: https://www.youtube.com/@Not4EveryonePod Plus follow us on INSTAGRAM for more: https://www.instagram.com/not4everyonepod/ https://www.instagram.com/thegoodsitter/ https://www.instagram.com/jzdebakey/ And don't forget about our MERCH store: https://not4everyonepod.myshopify.com/ __ Intro Music: “Doja Dance” by PALA __ DISCLAIMER: All opinions are our own. We are not therapists or health professionals, or professional of any kind, really. Please see your own professional or counselor for professional support. Do your research and be safe!
1 Aug 20241h 4min
82. For You: The Body Image Talk You Needed a Long Time Ago
This episode is sponsored by Shopify. Sign up for a $1 per month trial period at shopify.com/notforeveryone/. ___ This week, Jess and Caroline add to a conversation that seems to affect just about everyone: body image. They go through some listener DMs and cover topics like acknowledging the variability of body image, accepting your body when you’re chronically ill, and how to deal with family members who can’t stop talking about your weight. Plus, a few takes on how body hindsight is 20/20, how food morality can be damaging, and how you can’t talk someone out of an eating disorder. They also offer some concrete strategies for loving yourself, including being your own body-talk bestie, admiring other people’s bodies, and focusing on more important aspects about yourself. It’s a sweet one, babies—let Jess and Caroline cuddle you and remind you of how special you are, physical form aside. __ This episode was produced by our prince, Abi Newhouse. __ Share with a friend! Follow, rate, and review on your favorite podcasting app! Subscribe on YOUTUBE for full episode video: https://www.youtube.com/@Not4EveryonePod Plus follow us on INSTAGRAM for more: @not4everyonepod @thegoodsitter @jzdebakey And don't forget about our MERCH store: https://not4everyonepod.myshopify.com/ __ Intro Music: “Doja Dance” by PALA __ DISCLAIMER: All opinions are our own. We are not therapists or health professionals, or professional of any kind, really. Please see your own professional or counselor for professional support. Do your research and be safe!
18 Jul 20241h 20min
