81. Not for Meet Cutes + How "Sex and the City" Lied to Us
Welcome back to Not For Everyone, where this week, Jess and Caroline think people need to cool it. They discuss how people don’t know how to be properly annoyed anymore, how people can’t stop demeaning Americans on the internet, and how people go insane in the comment sections. This leads to some deeper conversations about how we get lost in what a love story “should” look like, a Sex and the City dating fallacy, and why throwing shade isn’t actually that bad. Plus, we get to the meat of great conversation starters—and how sometimes the most unexpected topics create hours of conversation. Like this podcast! So meta. __ This episode was produced by our prince, Abi Newhouse. __ Share with a friend! Follow, rate, and review on your favorite podcasting app! Subscribe on YOUTUBE for full episode video: https://www.youtube.com/@Not4EveryonePod Plus follow us on INSTAGRAM for more: @not4everyonepod @thegoodsitter @jzdebakey And don't forget about our MERCH store: https://not4everyonepod.myshopify.com/ __ Intro Music: “Doja Dance” by PALA __ DISCLAIMER: All opinions are our own. We are not therapists or health professionals, or professional of any kind, really. Please see your own professional or counselor for professional support. Do your research and be safe!
11 Jul 20241h 13min
80. Not for Eye Contact + Stop Chasing the First Date Spark
In today’s episode, we’ve got just about every Segment™ in the book for you. Jess and Caroline’s scientific minds put together a theory on attractiveness, a reason we say “you know?” so much, and a realistic take on disappointing people. Also, there’s a NEW segment, folks: Lady Snapple Facts, the first of which brings an often forgotten revelation about wearing skirts in public. Plus, a WHATADO: let’s say the first date was great, sparks flying, humor matching, conversation flowing...and then the second feels like a big swing and a miss. Jess and Caroline have OPINIONS, using some early dating stories to make their points. They then round out the episode with a complaint anyone can get behind: people just *existing* at the airport. Talk about a space that’s truly not for everyone. __ This episode was produced by our prince, Abi Newhouse. __ Share with a friend! Follow, rate, and review on your favorite podcasting app! Subscribe on YOUTUBE for full episode video: https://www.youtube.com/@Not4EveryonePod Plus follow us on INSTAGRAM for more: @not4everyonepod @thegoodsitter @jzdebakey And don't forget about our MERCH store: https://not4everyonepod.myshopify.com/ __ Intro Music: “Doja Dance” by PALA __ DISCLAIMER: All opinions are our own. We are not therapists or health professionals, or professional of any kind, really. Please see your own professional or counselor for professional support. Do your research and be safe!
4 Jul 20241h 6min
79. Hater Hour: Deep Friendship Betrayal, Manipulative People, and Getting Closure
This episode is sponsored by Zocdoc. Go to zocdoc.com/notforeveryone/ to try it today. This episode is sponsored by Shopify. Sign up for a $1 per month trial period at shopify.com/notforeveryone/. __ It’s Hater Hour, kooks—and Caroline is ready to bear it all. She jumps into a WHATADO about a deep friend betrayal: can they make it right? Or do you have to cut your losses? Caroline shares first hand examples of similar situations, offers some ideas for helping friends who are in manipulative situations, and tells us how to identify signs that you might be in the grips of a master manipulator. Plus, a WHATADO about getting closure from a not-so-great partner, and another WHATADO about dating someone who is super great at everything…except making stimulating conversation. Take a walk on the hater side. You’ll be pleasantly surprised at how much there is to love. __ Video on closure Caroline referenced: https://youtu.be/y0xShs1P950?si=QBxOWUcrRzj982jW&t=755 __ This episode was produced by our prince, Abi Newhouse. __ Share with a friend! Follow, rate, and review on your favorite podcasting app! Subscribe on YOUTUBE for full episode video: https://www.youtube.com/@Not4EveryonePod Plus follow us on INSTAGRAM for more: @not4everyonepod @thegoodsitter @jzdebakey And don't forget about our MERCH store: https://not4everyonepod.myshopify.com/ __ Intro Music: “Doja Dance” by PALA __ DISCLAIMER: All opinions are our own. We are not therapists or health professionals, or professional of any kind, really. Please see your own professional or counselor for professional support. Do your research and be safe!
27 Jun 20241h 16min
78. Not for Empaths + The Bizarre Stigma Around Couples Therapy
It’s a miracle: Caroline is healed. But the source of her healing is so unexpected that it leads Jess and Caroline down dangerous conversation roads, like discussing dreams and someone identifying as an ~empath~. They talk about how to handle dark mental health days and discuss the difference between self love and self worth, and what to do when the idea of self worth becomes damaging. Plus, a few relationship quandaries and WHATADOs: dealing with opposing preferences around the house, navigating different sex drives, the stigma of couples therapy, and the fear of telling friends about your relationship problems. They couldn’t end without a little game revolving around Beyoncé, since her music is all Jess has listened to for about a year. It’s a N4E renaissance. __ This episode was produced by our prince, Abi Newhouse. __ Share with a friend! Follow, rate, and review on your favorite podcasting app! Subscribe on YOUTUBE for full episode video: https://www.youtube.com/@Not4EveryonePod Plus follow us on INSTAGRAM for more: @not4everyonepod @thegoodsitter @jzdebakey And don't forget about our MERCH store: https://not4everyonepod.myshopify.com/ __ Intro Music: “Doja Dance” by PALA __ DISCLAIMER: All opinions are our own. We are not therapists or health professionals, or professional of any kind, really. Please see your own professional or counselor for professional support. Do your research and be safe!
20 Jun 20241h 14min
77. WHATADO: Flaky Friends + The Lie We Tell About Work/Life Balance
We know you’ve been wondering what to do lately, and we’re here to deliver. Get ready to dive into some friendship-related WHATADOS: how to handle that flaky bff, what it means to cling to the idea of someone, tips for hosting old friends, and strategies for helping a friend stop talking about their ex. But first, let’s talk work troubles. What does it mean to actually like your job, and to want to put effort into it? And how can you give yourself a break when you’re aiming to be the best at what you do? The episode is rounded out with a complaint, of course – Jess and Caroline are sending a specific article of clothing straight to hell. __ This episode was produced by our prince, Abi Newhouse. __ Share with a friend! Follow, rate, and review on your favorite podcasting app! Subscribe on YOUTUBE for full episode video: https://www.youtube.com/@Not4EveryonePod Plus follow us on INSTAGRAM for more: @not4everyonepod @thegoodsitter @jzdebakey And don't forget about our MERCH store: https://not4everyonepod.myshopify.com/ __ Intro Music: “Doja Dance” by PALA __ DISCLAIMER: All opinions are our own. We are not therapists or health professionals, or professional of any kind, really. Please see your own professional or counselor for professional support. Do your research and be safe!
13 Jun 20241h 12min
76. Not for Chafing + Perfectionism is Making Your Relationship Harder
It’s summer, ya kooks! Except…is it? Caroline and Jess debate when summer actually begins before launching into a WHATADO: how to dress for summer when you’re a curvy honey. Personal style is the conundrum that will never die. They cover wearing color, anti-chafing tips, and their mother’s thoughts on their changing bodies. Plus, Jess has a relationship realization worth a deep dive: how to handle the emotional onslaught you feel after getting critical feedback from a very steady, rational partner. The two decipher the difference between feeling disconnected and feeling out of sync, and follow up on some *couple things* shared by listeners. They round out the episode with some rapid-fire hot takes (shroom edition?) and complaints about kids on the internet. Because why not end with babies when you are two babies? IYKYK. __ This episode was produced by our prince, Abi Newhouse. __ Share with a friend! Follow, rate, and review on your favorite podcasting app! Subscribe on YOUTUBE for full episode video: https://www.youtube.com/@Not4EveryonePod Plus follow us on INSTAGRAM for more: @not4everyonepod @thegoodsitter @jzdebakey And don't forget about our MERCH store: https://not4everyonepod.myshopify.com/ __ Intro Music: “Doja Dance” by PALA __ DISCLAIMER: All opinions are our own. We are not therapists or health professionals, or professional of any kind, really. Please see your own professional or counselor for professional support. Do your research and be safe!
6 Jun 20241h 10min
75. Not for Cocktail Parties + How to Stop Micromanaging Everyone in Your Life
Jess and Caroline start out silly this week with some thoughts on oral talents (not what you think) and boobs as birthstones. In classic Not For Everyone style, this leads into deep conversations about knowing when difficult periods of life will end, how to achieve mindfulness, and the mania of babysitting your partner at social events. Plus, work dilemmas: what to do when you might be the micromanager, how to find your motivation at work, and dealing with the trap of unlimited PTO. Oh the dramas of modern life…take Jess' and Caroline’s hands. They’ll guide you through it. __ This episode was produced by our prince, Abi Newhouse. __ Share with a friend! Follow, rate, and review on your favorite podcasting app! Subscribe on YOUTUBE for full episode video: https://www.youtube.com/@Not4EveryonePod Plus follow us on INSTAGRAM for more: @not4everyonepod @thegoodsitter @jzdebakey And don't forget about our MERCH store: https://not4everyonepod.myshopify.com/ __ Intro Music: “Doja Dance” by PALA __ DISCLAIMER: All opinions are our own. We are not therapists or health professionals, or professional of any kind, really. Please see your own professional or counselor for professional support. Do your research and be safe!
30 Mai 20241h 8min
74. Not for Enabling Negative People + An In-Depth Recap of Our Trip to LA
This week, Jess and Caroline discuss all things couple culture, like when baby talk is appropriate, putting on non-sexual performances for your partner, and engaging in bits that, sincerely, only you and your person will understand. They also get into their couple culture with each other while recapping their recent trip to LA—which is full of general travel complaints and how they overcame them all. Plus, they get deep on what it means to let people experience their own negative emotions. What if we didn’t need to “fix” every scenario for others? They talk about how to respond to chronic complainers, what to do when you feel like you’re shutting down, and how to still find a way to keep these people close in our lives. Also, don’t miss the wrap-up conversation about friends’ siblings’ baby pictures…whose side are you on? __ This episode was produced by our prince, Abi Newhouse. __ Share with a friend! Follow, rate, and review on your favorite podcasting app! Subscribe on YOUTUBE for full episode video: https://www.youtube.com/@Not4EveryonePod Plus follow us on INSTAGRAM for more: @not4everyonepod @thegoodsitter @jzdebakey And don't forget about our MERCH store: https://not4everyonepod.myshopify.com/ __ Intro Music: “Doja Dance” by PALA __ DISCLAIMER: All opinions are our own. We are not therapists or health professionals, or professional of any kind, really. Please see your own professional or counselor for professional support. Do your research and be safe!
23 Mai 20241h 15min
