#51 Seeking Male Validation After a Breakup- Why We Do It & How to Stop

Okay, be honest. After your breakup, did you jump back on the apps not because you were ready to date, but because you just needed someone to find you attractive? Did you post that selfie & spend the next hour checking who'd seen it? Did you find yourself flirting with someone you weren't even interested in, just for the attention?

No judgment here. Kelly has been there too and this week she's getting into all of it.

Episode 50 is the male validation episode- how we seek it, why we seek it & most importantly how we stop needing it from everyone else & start giving it to ourselves instead.

You'll hear:

✨ The subtle ways seeking male validation shows up & why it doesn't always look like what you think

✨ Why your dopamine & oxytocin crash after a breakup makes validation-seeking completely understandable & what your brain is actually trying to do

✨ Why external validation is like a sugar rush & why it will never actually fill the gap

✨ How chasing validation from men is quietly delaying your healing without you even realising it

✨ Why the right person cannot fix a validation wound & what happens when you make them try

✨ The self-awareness tool that is always the first step

✨ Practical ways to start validating yourself- including the affirmation you can use even if the big ones feel like a lie right now

✨ The difference between enjoying a compliment & depending on one

You knew you looked good in that photo. That's why you posted it. This episode is your reminder that you don't need anyone else to confirm it 💚

Also, Kelly introduces something new in this episode. The Breakup Clarity Call. A 90-minute one-to-one call for anyone who isn't sure about full coaching yet but needs some guidance, a bit of a chin wag & a clear action plan for what comes next. Details on Instagram.

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