#56 Holding a Grudge Against Your Ex Is Only Hurting You- Time to Let It Go

You might hate Kelly a little during this episode, she's prepared for that, but she needs you to hear her out.

This week Kelly is talking about the grudge. The anger you're still carrying. The flash of rage when someone mentions his name. The replaying, the revisiting, the weight of it all.

And the uncomfortable truth, he's not lying awake at night thinking about how angry you are. He's just living his life & the only person carrying all of that weight is you.

You'll hear:

✨ Why holding a grudge feels like you're doing something but is actually only draining you

✨ The real reason we hold onto anger after a breakup & why it makes sense

✨ Why the grudge can feel like justice, like significance, like not letting him away with it but why none of that is actually going where you think it is

✨ The big word that makes everyone uncomfortable- "forgiveness" and what Kelly actually means by it

✨ Why forgiving him does not mean what he did was okay, that he deserves it or that he gets access to you again

✨ His access to you and your forgiveness are two completely different things & they don't need to touch each other

✨ Kelly's own experience letting go of the anger towards her ex-husband & the person in her life who couldn't understand it

✨ Why forgiveness is one of the final stages of healing, not something to rush to or skip ahead to

✨ What to do if you're still neck-deep in the anger & why that's completely okay too

He's not losing sleep over your grudge but you might be & you deserve that energy back💚

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