#58 Why You Stayed in a Relationship That Wasn't Good For You & Why You Need to Stop Blaming Yourself

Why did I stay so long? Why did I let it go that far? I should have seen it sooner. I should have left sooner.

If you've ever said any of those things to yourself, this episode is for you.

This week, prompted by a listener question, Kelly is tackling one of the most common things that comes up with her clients, the shame of staying. Why we do it, why it makes complete sense, & why you need to stop kicking yourself for it right now.

You'll hear:

✨ Why staying in a relationship you know isn't right for you doesn't make you weak or stupid, it makes you human

✨ Why you can see your friend's situation clearly but can't see your own & the emotional investment that explains it

✨ The real reasons women stay; anxious attachment, low self-worth, sunk cost, biological clock, fear of being alone & the one that catches almost everyone: potential

✨ Why being a fixer & seeing potential in someone is one of the most common reasons women stay far longer than they should

✨ The difference between a hard relationship worth working on & one where you're the only one doing the work

✨ The compassion tool; how to treat yourself the way you'd treat your best friend if she came to you with this exact story

✨ What to do if you have a friend who you can see should leave & why telling her to leave is probably making things worse

✨ How to actually help her instead

You loved him. What else were you supposed to do? Stop carrying the shame of staying. You're out now & that's all that matters 💚

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