How Do I Know if I Should Leave or Stay In a Relationship?

In this episode, Sarah explores what it means to anchor into the truth of your adult self and explains why protective parts can make it difficult to see your relationship clearly. You’ll learn why romantic relationships naturally activate unresolved childhood wounds, how partners can reveal the parts of you that still need healing, and how conflict can become an opportunity for repair rather than a sign that a relationship is failing. This episode offers a compassionate perspective on finding clarity and making decisions from your truest self.

Episode Highlights:
• [00:00] Introduction
• [01:19] Why only your adult self knows whether you should stay or leave
• [03:29] Recognizing when younger parts are driving your decisions
• [07:40] Showing up as your adult self in relationships
• [10:25] How romantic partnerships activate unresolved childhood wounds
• [15:51] Recognizing relationship triggers as invitations to heal
• [20:34] Turning relationship conflict from a battlefield into a garden
• [22:31] Why healing requires partners who are safe and willing
• [24:39] Anchoring into your adult self in relationships
• [28:52] Building the capacity to receive love
• [29:56] Knowing when it may be time to leave a relationship
• [39:11] Question 1: Should you leave a relationship that began from survival?
• [46:33] Question 2: Can you fully heal if your partner isn't doing the work?
• [52:53] Question 3: Why do some people sabotage relationships they deeply value?

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Quotes:
“We have to begin anchoring in our adult self, that is the arbiter of truth, that is your place of knowing.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:06:57]
“One of the primary reasons we come together with another person is that we, by design, pick folks who perfectly poke at our unresolved wounding, that is by design, and that is a gift to us.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:10:40]
“Your partner poking at those old wounds is not them creating the old wounds.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:17:09]
“Your job, not [your partner’s], is to begin rescuing that part of you and reparenting that part of you.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:27:03]
“What you feel isn't always the truth to adult you; it is a truth to a part of you. Our job is to decipher the difference.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:55:57]