How to be Less Fearful

What if fear only exists in the future? When the thing we're afraid of actually shows up, it stops being a fear and becomes a problem to be solved. And you've solved every problem that has come your way so far.

In this episode, Brooke shares why our primitive brain keeps offering us "what ifs," and how our adult brain can step in, calm things down, and remind us that we'll figure it out. She walks through the story of Enoch in Moses 6 and 7, a young man who felt slow of speech and unliked, and who grew into someone whose words moved mountains. She also shares a client who started with a small tiling project and worked her way up to remodeling her whole living room, becoming a different person along the way.

In this episode:

• Why fear resides in the future and problems live in the present
• The Bible Dictionary line that says God has been teaching us not to fear ever since the Fall
• Enoch's calling and how his capacity grew as he stepped forward in faith
• A client's home improvement journey and why real questions come once you begin
• Learning to ride a bike as a picture of how capacity grows through practice
• Theodore Roosevelt's "Man in the Arena" quote, shared by Brené Brown in Daring Greatly
• Brooke's own experience launching a program that nobody signed up for, and choosing to keep going
• Trusting God with our fears for our children and loved ones

A question to consider this week: What's one small thing you could try to move forward, even though it feels scary?

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