He's Not Sure If It Was Sexual Abuse. Was It?

He's Not Sure If It Was Sexual Abuse. Was It?

Oli's original video - https://youtu.be/VS7BUoz0C5o?si=0wRa5kqRi5oPZdjm

Age of consent investigation - https://youtu.be/KuCg3UavKcg?si=3rx9540-ynB0B9-X


When Ollie was 13, he entered into a sexual "relationship" with an 18-year-old woman. Now in his 30s, he's still unsure whether what happened to him was sexual abuse.


Ollie describes a relationship in which they genuinely liked each other. He doesn't believe he was groomed or manipulated and he doesn't consider the woman an abuser.


But looking back, he recognises that he wasn't in a position to give informed consent.


In this episode, I watch and reflect on Ollie's story, exploring some difficult questions around childhood sexual abuse, consent, power dynamics and the way we understand our experiences as we grow older.


We also discuss how our reactions might change when the genders are reversed and how the woman's own experiences of childhood sexual abuse may have influenced her behaviour.


I'd really like to hear your thoughts.


Do you consider what happened to Ollie sexual abuse? And does knowing the circumstances change how you feel about it?


Please share your thoughts in the comments. I welcome different perspectives and respectful discussion.


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