Ep. 10: Tips on Oral Sex, Not Feeling Like Doin’ It, and Sex Toys

In this episode, Tracey answers these three anonymous questions:Is it normal for couples to have sex in the same position every single time? We only ever have sex in two positions: me on top and him on top. He has no problem having orgasms that way, but I do. He always gives me an orgasm through oral sex but I would like to at least try for one during intercourse. Any suggestions on which positions are best?I’m dating a much younger man. I’m 52 and he’s 41 and the sex is fantastic. I’m newly divorced and I wasn’t looking for much more than just fun but now I can feel myself falling for him. He says the age difference doesn’t worry him and he feels the same way, but does it ever work out? I feel like I’m just setting myself up for heartbreak.My partner and I don’t own any sex toys but would like to try some. Can you tell me what are the top three sex toys you would recommend for couples who are trying them for the first time? We’ve been together eight years and I feel like we’re in a bit of a sex rut. LINKS BELOW:BULLET VIBRATOR:https://bit.ly/3lGIdiWhttps://bit.ly/3lTGM0qMASTURBATION SLEEVE:https://bit.ly/3yB3yh9https://bit.ly/3Aw8CEpREMOTE CONTROLLED EGG:https://bit.ly/3yEojsshttps://bit.ly/37JjYZnBONDAGE KIT:https://bit.ly/3fMHj0yhttps://bit.ly/3ixCFFpGLASS DILDOS: https://bit.ly/2VHBLgRhttps://bit.ly/2VG9MxEAnd offers her sex tip of the week!To have Tracey answer YOUR secret sex question, enter it anonymously on zibbyowens.com/sex.Want a copy of Tracey’s book, Great Sex Starts at 50? Enter code GREATSEX on ChronicleBooks.com for 30% off! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

10 Aug 202125min

In this episode, Tracey answers these three anonymous questions:I’m a huge believer in soulmates and “The One’ and the idea that there’s one person out there for me. But some of my friends say this harms my prospects in the long run. Are they right?I want to send my partner a nude photo of myself but every time I take one, it’s unflattering. Do you have any tips? We're also quite interested in filming ourselves having sex but not if it's going to crush our egos watching it back!Can you discuss the pros and cons of erectile dysfunction drugs like Tadalafil/Cialis and how they compare to the traditionally available Viagra? I have read that there are differences between them but not sure what’s advertising and what’s real?And offers her sex tip of the week!To have Tracey answer YOUR secret sex question, enter it anonymously on zibbyowens.com/sex.Want a copy of Tracey’s book, Great Sex Starts at 50? Enter code GREATSEX on ChronicleBooks.com for 30% off! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

3 Aug 202125min

In this episode, Tracey answers these three anonymous questions:My partner of 12 years wants me to ‘peg’ him. I didn’t even know what it was and had to google it. Now I’m worried. Not only don’t I want to do it, I’m worried it secretly means he’s gay.I found out my husband had sex with a hooker on his bachelor’s night just before we got married. What should I do now? That was five years and two kids ago. He deeply regrets it and swears he’s never cheated before or since and that his friends pushed him into it.I like getting quite wild and noisy in bed but it seems to freak men out. Should I calm it down? I don’t feel like I should but I don’t want to scare men off either! My previous long-term partner used to like it. And offers her sex tip of the week!To have Tracey answer YOUR secret sex question, enter it anonymously on zibbyowens.com/sex.Want a copy of Tracey’s book, Great Sex Starts at 50? Enter code GREATSEX on ChronicleBooks.com for 30% off! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

27 Juli 202125min

In this episode, Tracey answers these three anonymous questions:My husband of 13 years is suddenly wanting to try lots of new things in bed. Even more suspicious, he’s quite good at things I know he’s never done with me. I accused him of having an affair and he says he isn’t but what else could it be? He says he just wants to have more adventurous sex. But why now after all these years of quite boring sex?I’m really good at oral sex – it’s the thing I do best that really works on guys. So I was totally deflated to discover my new partner doesn’t enjoy receiving oral sex. He says he’s never really enjoyed it and only likes it when I use my hand. Now what?I recently found out my first and only real true love who I was with for seven years has now come out as gay. It was 20 years ago that we were together and I’m married now but it’s really thrown me. Does it mean he didn’t ever love me? Was it my fault? I am reasonably happy in my marriage but have always secretly hoped we’d end up back together. I don’t know how to deal with this.And offers her sex tip of the week!To have Tracey answer YOUR secret sex question, enter it anonymously on zibbyowens.com/sex.Want a copy of Tracey’s book, Great Sex Starts at 50? Enter code GREATSEX on ChronicleBooks.com for 30% off! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

20 Juli 202123min

In this episode, Tracey answers these three anonymous questions:My long-term girlfriend wants me to talk dirty in bed but I just can’t bring myself to do it. I feel incredibly self-conscious and have no idea what to say. Can you give me some ideas and please don’t make me sound I’m in an awful porn video.I met a guy online and we’re about to meet in person. I found it really easy chatting and flirting with him online or on Zoom but in person I’m not half as confident. I worry when he sees the real me in person he’ll be disappointed. I also gave the impression I’d be open to a lot more things sexually than I really am. What do I do now?How much are we ‘allowed’ to have our own sexual life, indeed sex ‘secrets’ within a relationship? I’m not talking about having an affair, but is it ok to masturbate without telling our partner we’ve done it? I’m assuming that’s a yes, it’s ok, but what about confessing to watching porn when we masturbate? Or having a secret sex toy just for ourselves? And, discussing sex on social media — where should you draw the ‘me only’ line?And offers her sex tip of the week!To have Tracey answer YOUR secret sex question, enter it anonymously on zibbyowens.com/sex.Want a copy of Tracey’s book, Great Sex Starts at 50? Enter code GREATSEX on ChronicleBooks.com for 30% off! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

13 Juli 202127min

In this episode, Tracey answers these three anonymous questions:I find sex at best uncomfortable, at worst outright painful. How do I make it more enjoyable? I have seen my doctor and he doesn’t seem to think there’s anything obviously wrong.We used to kiss all the time but just two years in, it’s all gone. I really miss it. How do I get it back again? We don’t even kiss during sex anymore. Do other long-term couples still kiss using their tongues?My partner takes Viagra ‘just for fun’. He doesn’t need it – he’s only 32 and doesn’t have erection problems – but I think he likes the feeling of being really hard. I worry it’s not good for him and that he will become reliant. He says he’s been using it on and off for years. And offers her sex tip of the week!To have Tracey answer YOUR secret sex question, enter it anonymously on zibbyowens.com/sex.Want a copy of Tracey’s book, Great Sex Starts at 50? Enter code GREATSEX on ChronicleBooks.com for 30% off! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

6 Juli 202128min

In this episode, Tracey answers these three anonymous questions:My partner and I want to try anal sex for the first time. Can you give us some tips on how to go about it? I don’t want it to hurt. Are there things you can do to make it hurt less?I’ve been seeing a new man for about a month and he still hasn’t made a move. I’m used to men hitting on me on the first date. What’s going on? Does this mean he doesn’t find me sexually attractive?I was raised in the Catholic Church and their viewpoint on sex is very negative and close-minded. Now that I am older and not involved in the church anymore, I am trying to relearn basic behaviors and change my mindset surrounding sex. I often am overwhelmed with feelings of "Catholic Guilt" any time I find myself filled with desire and want. I have a hard time relaxing and getting that guilt out of my mind during sex or while using my vibrator that it is really hard for me to enjoy the act of sex. Besides therapy, what are my options to overcome this wall?And offers her sex tip of the week!To have Tracey answer YOUR secret sex question, enter it anonymously on zibbyowens.com/sex.Want a copy of Tracey’s book, Great Sex Starts at 50? Enter code GREATSEX on ChronicleBooks.com for 30% off! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

29 Juni 202124min