S2 E3- This is my story. I get to decide who has the privilege of hearing it.
“This is my story. I get to decide who has the privilege of hearing it.” —Step 5, TS-12 Anon In today’s episode of Relational Trauma SOS, we explore what it means to reclaim authorship over our stories—especially after experiencing another’s abuse, addiction, adultery, or abandonment (what we call 4-A behavior). For many survivors, sharing our experience can be layered with fear, shame, confusion, or heartbreak. We may have been blamed, dismissed, or asked painful questions like “Why didn’t you leave?” We may still be searching for the language to name what happened. And we’ve learned that not every space—or person—is safe. This episode gently walks listeners through: Why trauma can make storytelling difficult How owning our story is an act of empowerment The healing impact of being compassionately witnessed How to set boundaries when deciding who gets to hear our story A beautiful meditation using the metaphor of a sacred book Whether you’re ready to share, still finding your voice, or just beginning to believe that your story matters—this episode is for you. Resources & Mentions: Visit ts12anon.org to find trauma-sensitive 12-step meetings Purchase the TS-12 Anon book (affiliate link) Learn more about our nonprofit at herwingsunfold.org Subscribe to the newsletter for support, updates, and event info. Volunteer, donate, or share your voice— Trauma survivors belong here
17 Juli 18min
S2 E2- The REVOLUTION of Trauma-Sensitive 12-Steps Has Arrived
Support the Movement: Donate to Help Her Heal Every dollar helps fund trauma-sensitive healing resources, retreats, care packages, and safe spaces for women impacted by abuse, addiction, adultery, and abandonment. Buy the Book: TS-12 Anon on Amazon ️ Episode Title: S2 E2 – The Revolution of Trauma-Sensitive 12 Steps: TS-12 Anon Welcome to another episode of Relational Trauma SOS, a H.E.R. Wings Unfold production. In this heartfelt and hopeful conversation, host Jeni Brockbank shares the story behind the creation of TS-12 Anon—the first trauma-sensitive 12-step program specifically designed for individuals impacted by 4-A behavior: another’s abuse, addiction, adultery, or abandonment. This episode introduces TS-12 Anon’s purpose, who it’s for (and not for), and how it differs from traditional 12-step models. Jeni also shares exciting updates, dreams for the future, and an encouraging discussion with her friend Lynn, who offers her perspective on the power and promise of trauma-sensitive healing. In This Episode: Why TS-12 Anon is revolutionary for survivors of 4-A behavior How H.E.R. Wings Unfold is reimagining healing with dignity, affordability, and community Who TS-12 Anon is for—and important clarifications on who it’s not for The current TS-12 Anon meeting schedule (3 virtual groups and growing!) How to find or start a meeting at ts12anon.org Ways to bring TS-12 Anon to shelters or support groups, including bulk pricing options Future dreams: adapted editions, community partnerships, and trauma-informed spaces to heal Resources & Links: Donate to Help Her Heal Buy the TS-12 Anon Book on Amazon Find or Start a Meeting Learn More About H.E.R. Wings Unfold Contact Us for Bulk Pricing Current TS-12 Anon Meetings: Monday Night: General meeting (open to all) Thursday Night: Women’s only meeting for those healing from betrayal trauma Sunday Night: For those with a loved one who is emotionally immature and/or has a personality disorder How You Can Help: Leave a 5-star review and rating to help survivors find this podcast Follow us on Instagram @herwingsunfold and @relationaltraumasos Share this episode with someone who needs to know they’re not alone Reach out to partner with us on literature adaptations or community efforts You are not alone. You are not crazy. You belong here. Together, we’re creating space for healing, empowerment, and rising. Chapters (00:00:00) - TRAuma Sensitive 12 Step Anonymous(00:01:40) - Her Wings Unfold: A Trauma SOS Foundation(00:03:36) - TS12 Anon(00:07:21) - Trauma Sensitive 12 Steps(00:08:28) - 12 Steps(00:12:06) - 12 Steps and Trauma sensitive 12 Steps(00:13:21) - 12 Steps: Pro-Depependence and Trauma Model(00:19:40) - TS12 and On: The Grief and Mourning(00:22:26) - 12 Steps Can Trigger Secondary Trauma(00:25:43) - Anxiety and the Problem of Relationships(00:28:26) - Reveal: The Surrender Process(00:31:03) - Wonders of 12 Step: Boundaries(00:33:46) - 12 Steps: Powerlessness and Empowerment(00:35:02) - TS12 Anon: Normalizing the Relationship With Our Higher Power(00:38:21) - Traditional 12 Steps vs TS12(00:42:54) - Praying With Your Higher Power in TS12(00:45:16) - Coping mechanisms in the 12 Steps(00:47:19) - Coming soon(00:49:36) - Trauma 12 Step Group
10 Juli 51min
S2 E1- What They Don't Tell You When You Leave Abuse & Why I Am Back
Help Her Heal: Make a Donation Support trauma-sensitive healing for women impacted by abuse, addiction, adultery, or abandonment (4-A behavior). Your donation helps fund TS-12 Anon meetings, survivor care packages, healing retreats, and the creation of a safe space to heal and rise. Thank you for being part of this important mission. ️ Episode Title: We’re Back—With Hope, Healing, and a Wider Lens Welcome to Relational Trauma SOS, a podcast for survivors of the 4 A’s—abuse, addiction, adultery, and abandonment. After a four-year pause, host Jeni Brockbank returns with a powerful and deeply personal episode. In this relaunch, Jeni shares her lived experience of relational trauma, post-separation abuse, systemic harm, and survival—alongside the story of founding H.E.R. Wings Unfold, a nonprofit dedicated to helping women heal with dignity. She also introduces TS-12 Anon, the first-ever trauma-sensitive 12-step program for survivors of 4-A behavior. In This Episode: Why the podcast disappeared and what brought it back How Jeni lived through all 4 A’s—abuse, addiction, adultery, abandonment Real-life examples of post-separation abuse and systemic failure The launch of H.E.R. Wings Unfold and its healing mission The need for trauma-sensitive recovery and the creation of TS-12 Anon Dreaming of a physical healing space with yoga, art therapy, and income-building workshops How you can support survivors and help rewrite the future of healing Resources Mentioned: H.E.R. Wings Unfold Website: herwingsunfold.org Donate to Help Her Heal: herwingsunfold.org/donate TS-12 Anon FIND A MEETING BUY the Book TS-12 Anon Join Our Newsletter: herwingsunfold.org/contact Featured Song: Learning to Fly This original track plays at the end of the episode. This song should be available for purchase by 07/18/2025 on all major platforms. All proceeds from the song benefit H.E.R. Wings Unfold. Connect With Us: Instagram: @herwingsunfold Instagram: @relationship_trauma_sos Share this episode, leave a review, and rate it 5 stars—it helps more survivors find this resource. Trauma survivors belong here. Chapters (00:00:02) - No More Trauma: A New Episode(00:01:45) - How Healing in Christ From Sexual Betrayal Has Changed My Life(00:15:15) - L Learning to Fly
10 Juli 19min
Ep 22: 1- 2- 3- Surrender With Rhyll Anne Croshaw
Rhyll Anne Croshaw, with the SA Lifeline foundation, shares her insights about the surrender process. Why do we need the surrender process? Rhyll says that the rewards of surrendering to God are peace. For those of us who struggle with betrayal trauma, peace is like water to our souls. Rhyll shares her 3 step surrender process and adds some extra details that I find particularly helpful. The basics to the 3 steps of surrender are: 1- Knees.2- Phone.3- Box. Surrendering to God is a key component of 12 step recovery work. Rhyll’s insights are helpful for newcomers and those more experienced in 12 step recovery work. NOTES: To attend a gender specific SA Lifeline 12 step meeting for betrayal trauma and/ or sex addiction, please visit https://salifeline.org/ . To attend the SA Lifeline conference (virtually or in person) on September 18th 2021 visit https://salifeline.org/s-a-lifeline-conference-2021/. Speakers include Stephanie Carnes and Jay Stringer. Rhyll Anne Croshaw’s book, What Can I Do About Me, can be purchased here. The Circles Model can be found here. The Betrayal Trauma SOS podcast has a previous episode on surrender. You can listen here, or search for episode 13 on most any major podcast platform.
10 Sep 202139min
Ep 21: Be the Buffalo With Ashlynn Mitchell
Ashlynn Mitchell discusses how to be the buffalo on this week’s episode. Because Ashlynn has been open with her recent experiences of heartache and thriving, I wanted to learn more. I am grateful that Ashlynn generously shares her experiences regarding healing from her recent divorce. We discuss how to be the buffalo… PhysicallyEmotionally& Spiritually I’ve implemented some things from Ashlynn’s interview that have helped in my own healing. I am hopeful that they will help in yours as well. Ashlynn is a podcast host for This Is Ashlynn, The Betrayed the Addicted and the Expert, is a co-creator of the program Beyond Enough, runs betrayal trauma groups and is a health and fitness coach. Learn to be the buffalo with me? XO Jeni https://www.instagram.com/mamabear.fitness/ https://linktr.ee/mamabear.fitness
26 Aug 202134min
Ep 20: Addiction & Mental Illness- Eyes Wide Open
Addiction & mental illness often go hand in hand. Sometimes it’s hard to see that there is an underlying issue. This last year, my eyes have been forced wide open and I am sharing more of our story here. Very special thanks goes to my husband who decided to let me be more open about our story. This leaves him vulnerable, as he struggles with both sex addiction and mental illness. Thankfully, because we are now aware of the connection, our resources have expanded and we are finding healing. By sharing our story, we hope that others can know that they aren’t alone, gain awareness and perhaps get much needed help.
12 Aug 202128min
Episode 19: Future Tripping With Pam Blizzard
Do you sometimes struggle with obsessive worrying about the future? I sure do and it’s normal to struggle when facing betrayal trauma. Our brains are looking for something to land on, but when the future is unsure, future tripping is often where our brains turn. A year ago I knew that I needed more insight into staying present, so I decided to interview Pam Blizzard. What Pam graciously shared with me was critical to my own healing journey. I’m excited to (finally!) make this interview public!!! If you struggle with future tripping, like I do, then this interview may be key for experiencing some relief in the midst of intensity. To find out more about betrayal trauma coach Pam Blizzard and the recovery services that she offers, please visit https://recoveredpeace.com/ . Facebook group: Recovering Spouses of Sex Addicts.
18 Juni 202131min
