Bystander Intervention - What to do if You Witness Abuse

In this episode DASAS Sexual Assault Therapist Krista DeBoer unpacks the documentary Athlete A. Krista was also a gymnast for several years. Athlete A is a 2020 American documentary film directed by Bonni Cohen and Jon Shenk. The documentary follows a team of investigative journalists from The Indianapolis Star as they broke the story of doctor Larry Nassar assaulting young female gymnasts. It was released on June 24, 2020, by Netflix. For a look at the larger subject of sexual abuse in sports, including red flags for parents to watch out for, listen to our previous episodes where we tackle this difficult subject: Sexual Abuse in Sports Part 1 Sexual Abuse in Sports Part 2 ——————————— If you need resources or help in any way, call our 24 hour hotline at 800-828-2023 or visit www.DASASMI.org. Subscribe for a new episode each week. We publish every Wednesday morning at 8:00am. Subscribe to the weekly email newsletter here or at our website here. We appreciate your help in spreading the message of hope. You can help us reach more listeners by leaving a written review on Apple Podcasts or where you listen, and by sharing on social media.

26 Aug 202027min

Krista DeBoer, Sexual Assault Therapist at DASAS, and Dani Filipek, Sexual Assault Advocate at DASAS join Dan Moyle to revisit sexual assault in sports. On this follow up to our previous episode "Sexual Abuse in Sports," Dani and Krista talk through red flags parents should look for, like the culture of the team which the coaches and other adults set, plus the players and their actions/attitudes, and other warning signs. ——————————— If you need resources or help in any way, call our 24 hour hotline at 800-828-2023 or visit www.DASASMI.org. Subscribe for a new episode each week. We publish every Wednesday morning at 8:00am. Subscribe to the weekly email newsletter here or at our website here. We appreciate your help in spreading the message of hope. You can help us reach more listeners by leaving a written review on Apple Podcasts or where you listen, and by sharing on social media.

19 Aug 202026min

In this episode, former guest Michele (a survivor and the inspiration behind the podcast) shares a project she did in college where four women share their survivor experiences in a narrative story. ——————————— If you need resources or help in any way, call our 24 hour hotline at 800-828-2023 or visit www.DASASMI.org. Subscribe for a new episode each week. We publish every Wednesday morning at 8:00am. Subscribe to the weekly email newsletter here or at our website here. We appreciate your help in spreading the message of hope. You can help us reach more listeners by leaving a written review on Apple Podcasts or where you listen, and by sharing on social media.

12 Aug 202015min

An adverse childhood experience (ACE) describes a traumatic experience in a person’s life occurring before the age of 18 that the person remembers as an adult. This year, a request was made to address the issue of COVID-19 and Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs). As serious as these issues are, it appeared at first to be an easy assignment. But maybe not. Jennifer Nottingham and Richard Murdock published an article for the Michigan ACE Initiative exploring the effects of the pandemic on children. On this episode she joins Dan to talk about ACEs, children facing the pandemic and the resilience of those kids. Read the article here The CDC-Kaiser ACE Study Stay Well Michigan MPHI ——————————— If you need resources or help in any way, call our 24 hour hotline at 800-828-2023 or visit www.DASASMI.org. Subscribe for a new episode each week. We publish every Wednesday morning at 8:00am. Subscribe to the weekly email newsletter here or at our website here. We appreciate your help in spreading the message of hope. You can help us reach more listeners by leaving a written review on Apple Podcasts or where you listen, and by sharing on social media.

5 Aug 202031min

In this episode Dan Moyle talks with Deborah Hackworth (Interim Executive Director), McKenna Bowdish (Walk committee Chair) and Ned Haylett (past President and Walk supporter) about the changes coming to this year's Walk a Mile event for DASAS. Domestic And Sexual Abuse Services will host a 3-week virtual fundraiser in place of its regularly-scheduled in-person “Walk a Mile” event for 2020. Due to the coronavirus and Covid-19 pandemic, DASAS has turned the Three Rivers event into a virtual challenge where participants take part wherever they are. “While our excitement for our upcoming event is high, we know we have a commitment to our community's health and safety,” Interim Executive Director Deborah Hackworth says. “In an effort to avoid bringing large groups together, we have decided to create this virtual challenge. The goal is to reach a total of 700+ miles together, walking or running, to represent the 700+ survivors who received help from our DASAS Programs in 2019. We know that as supporters walk with our clients on their hearts and minds, the money will come. We have such a generous network.” Also new this year is the name of the event. For several years DASAS hosted the “Walk a Mile in Her Shoes” event. While the walk has always been successful, DASAS leadership recognized that the event has not been truly inclusive of all individuals, nor called attention to all victims. For example, one out of every seven men is physically abused in intimate partner relationships, and one in six individuals is sexually assaulted as a child. Yet, in the past, our Walk a Mile event has focused solely on women as victims.  In addition, DASAS was concerned that men wearing heels in such a playful manner may be insensitive to individuals with nontraditional gender identity or sexual orientation. In order to host an event that is inclusive of all gender identities and sexual orientations, DASAS made a few changes to the event for 2020.​ This event is open to everyone— people of all genders and ages— making this a fully inclusive and family event. Rather than meeting in person, DASAS asks you to wear shoes symbolizing a person whom you know who was or is being abused or assaulted, or the shoes of a group of victims about which you particularly want to raise awareness. In this way, we can also honor male victims and child victims (perhaps by tying children’s shoes around your neck for the walk). Here’s how you can take part. We encourage individuals to challenge their friends and family to take the Walk-A-Mile Challenge. This can be completed at any time between August 1 thru Saturday, August 22 at 11:59 p.m. Participants can complete their walk/run at any time between August 1 and Saturday, August 22 at 11:59 p.m., all you have to do is: ● Register online https://dasasmi.networkforgood.com/events/22075-700-walk-a-mile-challenge ● Take a photo or video of yourself walking or running a mile (or more!) ● Post the photo or video on Facebook- use hashtag #DASASWalkaMile, tag DASAS, or email info@dasasmi.org so DASAS can feature you! Include how many miles you walked/run to help DASAS meet their goal of 700+ miles ● If you pledge to walk 3 miles or more, DASAS will mail you a Walk a Mile in Their Shoes t-shirt! Proceeds will support the Survivors and DASAS Programs.    Businesses can contact McKenna at 269-273-6977 for sponsorship information. ——————————— If you need resources or help in any way, call our 24 hour hotline at 800-828-2023 or visit www.DASASMI.org. Subscribe for a new episode each week. We publish every Wednesday morning at 8:00am. Subscribe to the weekly email newsletter here or at our website here. We appreciate your help in spreading the message of hope. You can help us reach more listeners by leaving a written review on Apple Podcasts or where you listen, and by sharing on social media.

29 Juli 202041min

Since our launch, WBET in Sturgis, Michigan has been home to our recordings. They have generously donated the studio time, the equipment and the expertise when needed to record I'm Not In An Abusive Relationship for you, our listener. On this special episode, WBET personality Mike Stiles interviews our producers Deborah Hackworth and Dan Moyle about the progress, where it all started and what's next. Thank you to Mike for inviting us onto the morning show and for allowing us to use the conversation in our episodes. ——————————— If you need resources or help in any way, call our 24 hour hotline at 800-828-2023 or visit www.DASASMI.org. Subscribe for a new episode each week. We publish every Wednesday morning at 8:00am. Subscribe to the weekly email newsletter here or at our website here. We appreciate your help in spreading the message of hope. You can help us reach more listeners by leaving a written review on Apple Podcasts or where you listen, and by sharing on social media.

22 Juli 202018min

Madison Carter turned her survivor story of emotional, psychological and physical abuse into a novel full of insight and hope. On this episode, Madison joins Dan to talk about the book and her journey from victim to survivor. "All Grace ever wanted was the normal things in life: a happy marriage, a big house, and a loving family. She never imagined her life would turn out so differently. The submissive Christian life she was asked to live left her totally dominated, oppressed, and depressed by her aggressive, controlling, and manipulative husband. She and her children were systematically crushed, and their will to thrive was snuffed out at every turn. She had no idea how to handle the insults and abuse from her husband or the isolation from her family. She never thought she’d lose her faith in God or plunge into such depths of despair. This powerful, heart-wrenching, true story of living every day with an abuser will educate readers on the serious nature of abuse, and it will show how Grace received healing and restoration after going through years of emotional abuse. It was only through God that she was able to find the strength to stand up for herself. Don’t miss out on this gripping narrative which is for anyone who has experienced emotional pain and is familiar with feelings of sadness, and who wants to find peace, joy and freedom." Buy Stop Making Me Cry here ——————————— If you need resources or help in any way, call our 24 hour hotline at 800-828-2023 or visit www.DASASMI.org. Subscribe for a new episode each week. We publish every Wednesday morning at 8:00am. Subscribe to the weekly email newsletter here or at our website here. We appreciate your help in spreading the message of hope. You can help us reach more listeners by leaving a written review on Apple Podcasts or where you listen, and by sharing on social media.

15 Juli 202036min

Victims in an abusive relationship oftentimes feel hopeless. They're hopeless that they can get out of the relationship. They're hopeless that they'll ever find love again. "Can I find love after domestic violence?" But hope is not lost. Elizabeth Aldreson, therapist at DASAS, explores the hope that comes with healthy relationships after domestic violence. If you need resources or help in any way, call our 24 hour hotline at 800-828-2023 or visit www.DASASMI.org. Subscribe for a new episode each week. We publish every Wednesday morning at 8:00am. Subscribe to the weekly email newsletter here or at our website here. We appreciate your help in spreading the message of hope. You can help us reach more listeners by leaving a written review on Apple Podcasts or where you listen, and by sharing on social media.

8 Juli 202029min