The Hidden Cost of Being Too Nice: Why People-Pleasing is Silently Killing Your Success | Scott Barry Kaufman  : 1261

The Hidden Cost of Being Too Nice: Why People-Pleasing is Silently Killing Your Success | Scott Barry Kaufman : 1261

You hold the door open. You say yes when you mean no. You put others first—always. It feels like the right thing to do… but is it costing you more than you realize?

In this episode, Scott Barry Kaufman, Ph.D.—Columbia professor, psychologist, and author of Rise Above—joins Dave Asprey to expose the psychology of victim vs. empowerment mindsets. He reveals how toxic altruism, external validation, and emotional fragility keep people stuck—and how you can reclaim your confidence, set boundaries, and create a life of true growth.

Dr. Kaufman, one of the world’s most cited scientists, shares cutting-edge research on self-actualization, resilience, and the hidden mental loops that shape your success. If you’ve ever felt stuck in self-doubt, drained from over-giving, or afraid to take up space, this conversation will help you break free.


What You’ll Discover in This Episode:

Victim vs. empowerment mindset—the key shift that changes everything

• The psychological traps of toxic altruism—and why over-giving holds you back

• How people-pleasing rewires your brain—and how to break the cycle

• The science of self-actualization—how to unlock your full potential without guilt

• Why modern culture and social media reward emotional fragility—and how to rise above it

• The neuroscience behind confidence, resilience, and making better choices for YOUR growth


If you’ve ever felt stuck, undervalued, or drained from always being “nice”, this episode will show you how to step into your power, rewrite your mental programming, and take control of your future.


SPONSORS

-Quantum Upgrade | Go to https://quantumupgrade.io/Dave for a free trial.

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Resources:

A Day of Biohacking and Consciousness Event: https://daveasprey.com/biohacking-and-consciousness/

Dave Asprey’s New Book - Heavily Meditated: https://daveasprey.com/heavily-meditated/

Scott’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/scottbarrykaufman/?hl=en

Scott's New Book – Rise Above:https://scottbarrykaufman.com/books/rise-above/

Danger Coffee: https://dangercoffee.com

Dave Asprey’s Website: https://daveasprey.com

Dave Asprey’s Linktree: https://linktr.ee/daveasprey

Upgrade Collective – Join The Human Upgrade Podcast Live: https://www.ourupgradecollective.com

Own an Upgrade Labs: https://ownanupgradelabs.com

Upgrade Labs: https://upgradelabs.com

40 Years of Zen – Neurofeedback Training for Advanced Cognitive Enhancement: https://40yearsofzen.com


Timestamps:

00:00 Trailer

00:44 Intro

02:02 Rise Above – Scott’s New Book

03:13 Triggers and Mind Control

05:12 Victimhood and Self-Actualization

12:01 Curiosity Over Fear

16:32 The Power of Discernment

26:32 Emotional Resilience Today

31:12 The Fragility of Younger Generations

37:33 Social Pressures and Identity

39:47 Social Media and Self-Determination

40:35 Community and Belonging

42:42 Activating Happiness and Growth

44:43 Gratitude and Daily Practices

51:48 Healthy Selfishness vs. Altruism

58:56 Codependency and Vulnerable Narcissism

01:04:57 The Dark Triad and Personality Types

01:09:14 Final Thoughts and Book Recs

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