The Ultimate Guide to Fisting (ft. Jamie Joy)

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) is joined by Catherine Drysdale—sex & relationship coach—who’s on a mission to help women and femmes unlearn the “good girl” scripts that keep them small, quiet, and out of touch with their desires.We talk about:• What “good girl conditioning” really means and how it shows up in our lives• The difference between Good Girl Conditioning and being a "good girl" in a power dynamic• The pressure to be nice, palatable, and liked (and how that impacts our relationships and sex lives)• Why so many of us have trouble asking for what we want—especially in bed• The link between patriarchy and the fear of being “too much”• How to begin reclaiming your voice, your wants, and your power• Ways to get comfortable with discomfort, especially when it comes to setting boundaries• Rewriting your relationship with shame, worthiness, and sexual expressionThis is a permission slip to take up space and live more fully, more loudly, and more authentically.✨ At the end of the episode, we also chat about how this work spills into dating, communication, and how to support other women on the same journey.🎧 Plus! Don’t forget to check out my Patreon where I share the unedited version of this episode, updates on my dating and sex life, and give members access to my Close Friends on Instagram.Thank you, Beducated, for sponsoring this episode and making this exploration possible. Use code ALEXA to try their platform for free for 24h and, if you love it, get 60% off their yearly pass. 14 day money back guarantee if you don't! Click here to sign up:https://beducate.me/alexa-may

8 Maj 1h

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) is back onboard the Temptation Cruise!In this episode, Alexa reconnects with Mario Cruz, Cruise Director for Temptation Cruises, to dive even deeper into what makes a lifestyle-friendly cruise such a unique, exciting, and welcoming experience.Recorded live from the February 2025 sailing, we chat about:How Temptation Cruises create a safe, respectful, and fun environment for all guestsTips for first-timers: how to navigate nerves, set boundaries, and make connectionsDebunking common myths about swinger and lifestyle cruisesThemed nights, play areas, workshops, and how to make the most of the onboard eventsHow privacy and discretion are prioritized for every guestHow these cruises can open doors to self-discovery and new adventuresThe difference between Temptation and Desire Cruises (and which might be a better fit for you!)Funny, surprising behind-the-scenes stories from working onboard✨ PLUS: Alexa and Mario invite YOU to join the next Temptation Cruise this November 2025! Whether you're new to the lifestyle or just looking for a sexy, judgment-free vacation, this could be your next adventure.🔥 Want more? Join my ⁠Patreon⁠ for unedited episodes, behind-the-scenes tea on my personal dating & sex life, and access to my Close Friends on Instagram!

1 Maj 57min

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) sits down with Alex Fine, educator, activist, parent and founder of the pleasure-forward brand Dame, to talk about how to find the sex toy that actually works for you—and how to confidently use it, whether you're flying solo or playing with a partner.Alex shares how Dame is redefining pleasure with intentional, inclusive design, and we get into how to move past shame, communicate your needs, and create sexy experiences that center your pleasure.Whether you’re new to toys or looking to level up, we’ve got guidance on how to explore in ways that feel exciting, not overwhelming.✨ In this episode, we cover:How to choose a toy based on your anatomy and what you likeTips for using toys with a partner without making it weird or performativeHow to bring up toys with a partner if they’re nervous or skepticalThe difference between clitoral, vaginal, anal, and blended stimulation—and toys for eachHow to care for your toys so they last (and stay safe to use)Debunking myths like “you’ll get addicted to your vibrator”How Dame is shaking up the industry with body-safe, beautifully designed productsThe role of design in enhancing your pleasure and creating easeMasturbation as a form of self-connection and stress reliefWhy you don’t have to “fix” anything—pleasure isn’t a performanceSuing the MTA so they could advertise on the subwayThank you, Beducated, for making this exploration possible. Use code ALEXA to try their platform for free for 24h and, if you love it, get 50% off their yearly pass. 14 day money back guarantee if you don't! Click here to sign up:https://beducate.me/alexa-april 🎧 Unedited episodes, my personal dating & sex life, and access to my Close Friends list on Instagram? It’s all on Patreon

24 Apr 57min

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) sits down with bisexual writer, sex expert, and chaos king Zachary Zane for a juicy episode all about how to suck dick like a pro. Whether you’re a total beginner, looking to level up your skills, or just love talking about pleasure—we’ve got you covered.Zach shares his most helpful tips, wildest stories, and hard-earned wisdom from both personal and professional experience. We talk technique, confidence, communication, and why good oral isn’t just about what your mouth is doing—but also how present, excited, and connected you are.In this episode, we discuss:How to make oral feel incredible with your mouth and your whole bodyDeepthroating 101: tips, angles, breathing, and how to stay in controlWhat makes a blowjob feel intimate (even when it’s casual)How to avoid jaw fatigue and still make it look/feel amazingCommon mistakes people make when giving oral to penis-haversThe power of eye contact, vocal feedback, and enthusiasmCommunication tips—how to ask for direction without killing the moodThe difference between porn blowjobs and what people actually wantWhat to do if you're nervous, insecure, or don’t love giving oral (yet)How Zachary’s bisexuality influences his approach to pleasureThe importance of mutual pleasure and making oral a two-way experienceThis episode is informative, hot, and actually helpful—no shame, no judgment, just real talk about how to become a more generous, confident, and attuned lover.Thank you Fantasia for being a sponsor on today's episode. Check out fantasiatoy.online to see what your fantasy feels like!✨ Unedited episodes, behind-the-scenes of my dating & sex life, and access to my close friends list on Instagram available on Patreon

17 Apr 58min

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) sits down with world-renowned sex educator and author Kenneth Play to talk all things oral sex on vulvas—techniques, mindset, communication, and pleasure-maximizing strategies. Known for his viral videos, global workshops, and author of Beyond Satisfied, Kenneth breaks down how anyone can become a more confident and skillful oral lover—no magic tongue required.In this episode, we discuss:The most common mistakes people make when going down on someoneHow to build confidence if you feel awkward or unsureKenneth’s signature “sex hacking” approach and why it worksThe anatomy of pleasure: why understanding the clitoris is essentialWhy going slow is underrated and how to read your partner’s body cuesCommunication tips that don’t kill the vibeTechniques for different sensations: flicking, sucking, pressure, and moreHow to involve your hands, body, and breath for maximum connectionTips for anyone struggling to orgasm from oral stimulationWhat Kenneth learned from working with thousands of vulva ownersBusting myths about what “good oral” looks likeHow to prioritize pleasure over performanceKenneth’s top tips for becoming a more intuitive, generous loverWhether you’re new to oral or want to refine your technique, this episode is full of real, actionable tips that can immediately change your sex life.✨ Unedited episodes, behind-the-scenes of my dating & sex life, and access to my close friends list on Instagram available on Patreon: https://patreon.com/sexwithalexaThank you, Beducated, for making this exploration possible. Use code ALEXA to try their platform for free for 24h and, if you love it, get 50% off their yearly pass. 14 day money back guarantee if you don't! Click here to sign up: https://beducate.me/alexa-april

10 Apr 1h 1min

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) sits down with writer and relationship expert Hayley Folk to talk about an unconventional but increasingly popular relationship setup: living separately from your partner. Why do some people thrive in separate spaces? What are the benefits and challenges? And is this a better setup for non-monogamous relationships?We also dive into one of Hayley’s most viral Cosmopolitan articles—what to do with your ex’s nudes. Should you keep them? Delete them? Ask permission? And is it really wrong to revisit them from time to time?Plus, we discuss what it’s like navigating relationships as a queer person, how queerness plays a role in her job and personal life, and why non-monogamy can feel so natural in queer spaces. Hayley also shares her experiences at sex parties—how they’ve helped her feel empowered as a woman and what she’s learned from attending them.Why more couples are choosing to live apartThe pros and cons of maintaining separate spacesHow non-monogamy fits into the equationHow to set clear boundaries and expectationsThe debate around keeping your ex’s nudes—what’s ethical?How queerness plays into relationships, non-monogamy, and intimacyHayley’s personal experiences at sex parties and why they make her feel empoweredHow past relationships shape how we handle intimacyThis episode is for anyone questioning traditional relationship norms and looking for fresh perspectives on love, space, queerness, and digital boundaries.🔥 Want more? Join my Patreon for unedited episodes, behind-the-scenes tea on my personal dating & sex life, and access to my Close Friends on Instagram!

3 Apr 45min

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) sits down with Miss Lauren to talk about how to take charge in the bedroom, tap into your confidence, and explore power dynamics in a way that feels fun and natural. Whether you’re looking to spice things up or just want to feel more in control, this episode is packed with practical tips and expert advice on owning your desires.We cover:How she got started and what it's like working at a dungeon.How to start dominating your boyfriend—even if you’ve never done it before.Why confidence is key—and how to build it in and out of the bedroom.Ways to take the lead in sex—without feeling awkward or forced.How to introduce power dynamics in a fun, flirty way—no whips or leather required.The psychology behind why some people love being told what to do—and how to use that to your advantage.Findom (financial domination) 101—what it is, how it works, and why it’s more common than you think.How to communicate what you want—and make sure your partner is on board.Easy ways to get started with small, subtle power shifts that can change everything.A special thank you to our incredible sponsor, Beducated, for supporting this project. Beducated is committed to empowering individuals on their sexual wellness journey with expert-led courses that foster intimacy, communication, and pleasure. Their dedication aligns seamlessly with our mission here.Thank you, Beducated, for making this exploration possible. Use code ALEXA to try their platform for free for 24h and, if you love it, get 60% off their yearly pass. 14 day money back guarantee if you don't! Click here to sign up:https://beducate.me/alexa-march

27 Mars 55min

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) sits down with Lindsay Wynn, founder of Momotaro Apotheca, a brand dedicated to holistic vaginal health and wellness. After struggling with recurrent BV and yeast infections with no long-term solutions in sight, Lindsay set out to create products that actually support vaginal and vulva health—without harsh chemicals or unnecessary shame.In this episode, we have a raw and informative conversation about all things vulva health, vaginal wellness, and self-care. We dive into:How to prevent and treat common vaginal issues like BV, yeast infections, UTIs, and irritation—what actually works and what’s just a marketing gimmick.The biggest culprits behind vaginal pH imbalance, from antibiotics and semen to diet, stress, and even your favorite pair of leggings.The dos and don’ts of vulva hygiene—should you wash with soap? Do you need probiotics? Are feminine wipes your friend or foe?Debunking common vulva myths, like whether certain foods change your taste and if tight underwear really causes infections.How sex impacts vaginal health, plus practical pre- and post-sex care tips to help you stay balanced.The truth about discharge and odor—what’s normal, what’s not, and why we need to stop pathologizing natural bodily functions.How to find the right products for vaginal health and what harmful ingredients to look out for.Changing the conversation around intimate wellness—why vaginal health is still so taboo and how we can normalize these discussions.Our personal experiences with squirting—Lindsay is still exploring, but she shares a position we should all try (trust us, you’ll want to take notes).A special thank you to our incredible sponsor, Beducated, for supporting this project. Beducated is committed to empowering individuals on their sexual wellness journey with expert-led courses that foster intimacy, communication, and pleasure. Their dedication aligns seamlessly with our mission here.Thank you, Beducated, for making this exploration possible. Use code ALEXA60 to try their platform for free for 24h and, if you love it, get 60% off their yearly pass. 14 day money back guarantee if you don't! Click here to sign up:https://beducate.me/alexa-march

13 Mars 59min