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Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) sits down with Dr. Sonya Maya, a pre-licensed psychologist, sex therapist and content creator. Dr. Sonya helps people navigate relationships, pleasure, and personal growth with confidence and clarity. In this episode, we explore how to have casual sex in a way that feels empowering, enjoyable, and drama-free—whether you're new to it or looking to refine your approach.We discuss:How to know if casual sex is right for you—some people thrive in no-strings-attached encounters, while others struggle.How to set clear boundaries and communicate expectations so everyone is on the same page.How to avoid catching feelings (or handle it if you do) and ways to check in with yourself.Destigmatizing casual sex, especially for women and queer folks, and breaking down harmful stereotypes.How to stay physically and emotionally safe, including STI prevention, handling rejection, and self-reflection after hookups.Navigating casual sex in ethical non-monogamy and how it differs from traditional dating.Red flags to watch out for and how to recognize when a casual partner might want more than you do.How to make casual sex more enjoyable—from mindset shifts to exploring pleasure in a way that works for you.If you've ever struggled with setting boundaries, worried about emotional entanglements, or just want to make sure you're approaching casual sex in a way that feels good for you, this episode is full of practical tips, expert insights, and real talk to help you have more fulfilling, shame-free casual experiences.

6 Mars 55min

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) sits down with Sarah Tomchesson, Certified Sex Educator, Embodied Intimacy Coach, Marketing Director for Magic Wand and host of the Fuck Yeah podcast, to talk about one of the most sought-after yet misunderstood experiences: full body orgasms. Recorded in Costa Rica at the Shameless Sex Retreat, this episode dives deep into what full body orgasms really are, how they happen, and how you can tap into them.Sarah shares her journey from discovering sex-positivity in college to becoming a leading voice in pleasure-based sex education. We talk about how shame, stress, and disconnection block pleasure, and how somatic techniques, breathwork, and body awareness can help you reclaim your pleasure and access deeper orgasms.We also cover:🔸 Why so many people struggle to connect with their bodies (and how to change that)🔸 The myths around orgasm gaps, genital-focused pleasure, and what it really means to be “multi-orgasmic”🔸 How curiosity and playfulness can enhance your sexual experiences🔸 Why full body orgasms aren’t just about sex—they’re about embodiment, confidence, and overall well-beingA special thank you to our incredible sponsor, Beducated, for supporting this project. Beducated is committed to empowering individuals on their sexual wellness journey with expert-led courses that foster intimacy, communication, and pleasure. Their dedication aligns seamlessly with our mission here.Thank you, Beducated, for making this exploration possible. Use code ALEXA to try their platform for free for 24h and, if you love it, get 60% off their yearly pass. 14 day money back guarantee if you don't! Click here to sign up:⁠⁠https://beducate.me/shecomesfirst⁠

27 Feb 55min

Sexologist Alexa Andre (⁠@sexwithalexa⁠) sits down with ⁠Amy Baldwin⁠—sex educator, co-host of the ⁠Shameless Sex Podcast⁠, and author—to talk about everything from learning to enjoy receiving to becoming amazing at oral and navigating non-monogamy.Amy shares what it was like growing up with a sex-positive mom, opening a sex shop with her, and not having her first orgasm until 18—plus how she only started having really good sex in her 30s. We also go deep into her journey in non-monogamy, how she and her partner opened up their relationship, and how their rules vs. agreements evolved over time.We cover:🔹 Growing up sex-positive & running a sex shop with her mom🔹 Why it took so long to start having good sex (and what changed!)🔹 Her journey into non-monogamy and what she’s learned along the way🔹 Her top blowjob tips for mind-blowing oral🔹 Why so many people struggle with receiving pleasure & how to get better at it🔹 The sex myths we wish we’d unlearned so much soonerIf you want to get better at giving and receiving pleasure, understand non-monogamy from someone who's lived it, and break free from old sexual conditioning, this episode is a must-listen!Check out the ⁠Shameless Sex Tour ⁠happening in Austin, Dallas and Santa Cruz!A special thank you to our incredible sponsor, Beducated, for supporting this project. Beducated is committed to empowering individuals on their sexual wellness journey with expert-led courses that foster intimacy, communication, and pleasure. Their dedication aligns seamlessly with our mission here.Thank you, Beducated, for making this exploration possible. Use code ALEXA to try their platform for free for 24h and, if you love it, get 60% off their yearly pass. 14 day money back guarantee if you don't! Click here to sign up:⁠https://beducate.me/shecomesfirst⁠

20 Feb 57min

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) sat down withApril Lampert in Costa Rica at theShameless Sex Retreat to talk about everything from sex shop secrets to navigating infidelity. April, co-host of theShameless Sex Podcast, has spent years helping people break free from shame and embrace pleasure—but her journey started in avery different place.In this episode, we cover:🔹 Growing up in aconservative household and unlearning sexual guilt🔹 What working at asex shop taught her about human desire🔹 Theinfidelity in her past relationships & how she handled it🔹 Herslut era and what it taught her about sexual empowerment🔹 The hygiene tips everyone should know for a better sex life🔹 Why she’sstill intimidated by sex parties, despite talking about them all the time🔹 How much of what she learns onShameless Sex actually makes it into her real lifeApril keeps itreal, raw, and hilarious, and this conversation is packed with insight, honesty, and a whole lot of laughs. Tune in for an episode that will make you rethink everything youthought you knew about sex and shame.

13 Feb 52min

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) sits down with Jacqueline Soule, a system disruptor who feels everything—literally. From experiencing orgasms on bumpy roads to planning her life around her menstrual cycle, Jacqueline shares how deep body awareness has shaped her life. We discuss how to be more mindful and make everyday moments more pleasurable, how she taught her kids about cycles and sex education, and what it’s like to navigate relationships with mismatched desire levels. Plus, she reveals what life is like without a negative internal voice—and how you can start silencing yours. Topics include:✨ Tips on becoming more in tune with your body✨ How to bring more pleasure into mundane daily moments✨ Why she plans her entire life around her menstrual cycle✨ Teaching kids about sex ed, body image & self-awareness✨ What it’s like to have no negative self-talk✨ Navigating a higher libido than your partner✨ The power of sensory awareness & pleasure If you’re curious about deepening your connection with your body, tuning into pleasure, and embracing your natural rhythms, this episode is for you!

30 Jan 43min

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) sits down with Amber Mallery, an award-winning sex educator and advocate for inclusivity in sexual health education, for an inspiring and candid conversation about sex, self-discovery, and prioritizing personal growth. (also see @bijoux_indiscrets) Amber shares her journey into sex education, her passion for fostering inclusive spaces, and how she navigates challenging but essential conversations around intimacy and relationships. They dive deep into their shared experiences giving workshops on Desire Cruises, discussing the unique dynamics of teaching about pleasure and empowerment in such a liberating environment. Amber also opens up about her decision to prioritize herself, how it’s impacted her life and work, and why self-care is vital for showing up fully for others. From breaking stigmas around pleasure to exploring new areas of intimacy safely, Amber and Alexa unpack everything you need to know to foster connection, confidence, and self-love in and out of the bedroom. Amber’s journey to becoming a sex educator Giving workshops on Desire Cruises and empowering others Why prioritizing yourself is vital for growth and connection Breaking down stigmas around sexual health and pleasure Tips for improving communication and intimacy in relationships Exploring kink and new areas of sexuality safely Creating inclusive, sex-positive spaces The importance of representation in sex education This episode is a must-listen for anyone looking to deepen their knowledge, embrace pleasure, and live unapologetically.

23 Jan 55min

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) kicks off Season 4 with an exciting conversation with Mario Cruz, Cruise Director for the famed Desire and Temptation Cruises. In this episode, we dive into the world of swinger/lifestyle-friendly cruises and explore what makes these experiences so unique, from themed nights and play spaces to fostering a respectful, consensual environment for newcomers and experienced swingers alike.Mario shares insider details about creating a safe space for exploration, including privacy measures for discreet guests, guidance for setting boundaries, and tips for easing into the lifestyle. We also debunk common myths about swinger/lifestyle-friendly cruises, discuss the vibrant themed dress codes, and explore the balance between a thrilling party atmosphere and a comfortable, inclusive environment.Mario’s stories from past cruises offer a glimpse into the memorable, funny, and heartwarming moments that make these journeys more than just about sex—they’re about connection, community, and unforgettable adventures. Whether you’re curious about the lifestyle or a seasoned participant, this episode is full of insights, laughs, and practical advice for anyone considering their first swinger/lifestyle-friendly cruise.Topics include: What makes swinger/lifestyle-friendly cruises different from typical cruises Debunking myths about swinger/lifestyle-friendly cruises Privacy, boundaries, and consent onboard Themed nights and how wild guests get with their outfits Tips for first-timers and navigating nerves Beyond sex: the community, workshops, and relaxation aspects Memorable moments from Desire and Temptation CruisesJoin us as we set sail on an enlightening journey into the world of swinger/lifestyle-friendly cruises, where adventure and connection await!

16 Jan 50min

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) welcomes Reed Amber, a multifaceted sex educator, sex worker, and co-host of the popular podcast Come Curious. In this episode, Reed opens up about her experiences and insights into sex work, body confidence, and intimacy. She shares her journey toward embracing nipple confidence, the challenges of vulva and labia diversity, and how growing up in a “naked family” helped her view normal bodies as healing and empowering. We delve into her private and professional lives, discussing how she balances intimate, private sex with her boyfriend and the content they create for OnlyFans. Reed shares her love for feet and tickle fetishes, breaking down the shame she once felt and how she now embraces her desires—right down to hosting tickle parties in London and experiencing orgasms from unique sensations like tickling or bladder pressure. Reed also reflects on growing up with an autistic mom who was open about sex, the joy and excitement she finds in sex work, and her thoughts on unfair UK laws targeting sex workers. She debunks myths about sex workers, discusses STI stigma and statistics, and opens up about her journey toward sobriety and how it has transformed her sex life, including attending sex parties sober. We also touch on her podcast Come Curious, how she met her co-host Florence (author of This Book Will Make You Feel Something), and how they navigate creative differences. Plus, Reed shares her evolution from being a “size queen” to reevaluating her preferences. Trigger Warning: This episode includes mention of childhood sexual assault. Topics include: Embracing nipple and vulva confidence Balancing sex with your partner vs sex for OnlyFans Growing up in a naked family and its healing effects Reed’s tickle and full bladder fetish UK laws targeting sex workers and their impact STI statistics and breaking down stigmas Sobriety and its effect on her sex life Foot fetish content creation and Reed’s joy in sex work Insights from the Come Curious podcast This episode is a powerful mix of vulnerability, joy, and breaking stigmas about sex, work, and identity. A special thank you to our incredible sponsor, Beducated, for supporting this project. Beducated is committed to empowering individuals on their sexual wellness journey with expert-led courses that foster intimacy, communication, and pleasure. Their dedication aligns seamlessly with our mission here. Thank you, Beducated, for making this exploration possible. Use code ALEXA60 to try their platform for free for 24h and, if you love it, get 60% off their yearly pass. 14 day money back guarantee if you don't! Click here to sign up: ⁠https://beducate.me/alexa40

2 Jan 1h 3min