Ever Feel Like a Pretzel or a Doormat Trying to Please Someone? Do this!

Ever Feel Like a Pretzel or a Doormat Trying to Please Someone? Do this!

SAVE YOUR SANITY: HELP FOR HANDLING HIJACKALS®

with Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor


EVER FEEL LIKE A PRETZEL OR DOORMAT TRYING TO PLEASE A HIJACKAL®?


Is there someone in your life who treats you poorly? Do you feel put-down, ignored, walked over, or taken advantage of?


That's not good. You want to be seen, heard, known, accepted, acknowledged, and appreciated. You know how I talk about this in my book, Kaizen for Couples? Well, it is not just for couples. It's for every single person on the planet, and that means you, too! It will help you change your relationship with yourself, while gathering strong skills to communicate well, manage conflict effectively, and create rich emotional intimacy.


If that's not the kind of relationship you're having with someone, then it's time to change that. It's time to get up on your back legs and say "NO!" and "NO MORE!" It's time to strengthen your boundaries.


If you were raised by a #Hijackal, a relentlessly difficult person, you've likely been trampled on so frequently that you learned that it's often safer to just lie there. Time to get up!


Boundaries frighten and inflame Hijackals. No question. But, you're not just going to lie there and take what they dish out are you? No, I'm not suggesting that you get in their face, and fight back. Something more powerful! In today's episode, I'm giving you some reasons and strategies for simply standing your ground without drama.


Will the #Hijackal provide more drama? Sure. But, you won't. What the Hijackal does is on him or her!


Your emotional health and emotional well-being is directly related to your ability--and your willingness--to manage your boundaries. Could they use shoring up? Today's episode will definitely help with that.


Get insights on:

  • what to do when a person violates your space
  • how to respond when a person gets too close to fast
  • how to tell someone to back off
  • why you don't owe anyone an explanation for why you want them to step back
  • how to give voice to non-negotiable boundaries


Hijackals are toxic people who create toxic relationships! They try to poison you. Be clear that you are NOT the poison that the Hijackal insists you are, either. They will try to make everything your fault. Don't take it in!


I hope this help you see that more clearly. If you need help with this, I'm here for you.


Let's talk soon. I can help. Schedule an initial hour consultation HERE for only $97.


I hope this empowers you to make positive changes NOW.


Talk soon.

Rhoberta


Rhoberta Shaler, PhD,

The Relationship Help Doctor

ForRelationshipHelp.com


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You can also listen to the last 32 episodes of Save Your Sanity on Mental Health News Radio Network. That's a great place to get in-depth insights for shoring up mental and emotional health of all kinds.


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