Calm AF | Overthinking, Anxiety & Nervous System Regulation30 Juli 2025

What if this is easy? (And other phrases Susan used to change her life)

Calm AF Year is a year-long experiment to see what happens when you LET your life change instead of trying hard to change your life.

Enrollment opens August 11th. Get on the interest list here.

This is Part 2 of my conversation with Susan, one of my Calm AF clients who's been showing up relentlessly to create a life that she LOVES to live. While Part 1 was about intentions and her initial breakthrough with her Future Self, this episode dives into the practical magic that happens when you actually START LIVING these tools.

Susan shares her biggest shifts, including:

How "Nervous System First" became her internal mantra
Understanding the Calm AF scale and why hyper/hypo vigilance isn't a personality flaw
The rubber band theory that will change how you think about setbacks forever
Why feelings only last 90 seconds (but the stories can last a lifetime)
The purple car theory in action - and how it completely transformed her 30-year marriage

This isn't theoretical bullshit. This is what it actually looks like when someone stops making everything so complicated and starts trusting the process.

Resources:

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