S2 E5: Healing While Being Shot At- A Survival Guide

Healing While Being Shot At: A Survival Guide

Episode Description:

In this episode of Relational Trauma SOS, Jeni Brockbank explores what it means to try to heal while still “being shot at”—navigating crisis after crisis. Using the powerful quote, “We don’t expect soldiers to heal from PTSD while they’re being shot at,” Jeni shares pieces of her own story and a survival guide for those who feel like life won’t slow down enough to breathe.

You’ll hear personal examples, practical tools rooted in TS-12 Anon Step 3, and the Shield of Light Meditation—a trauma-sensitive visualization to help you feel safe in your body.

Episode Highlights:

• Why shame and minimizing don’t help in crisis

• How to practice self-compassion and “lower the bar” when surviving

• How to create at least one safe space for yourself, even when life is chaotic

• The Shield of Light Meditation (with options for those who struggle with visualization)

• Free downloadable What Does Safety Look Like, Sound Like, and Feel Like? Worksheet

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Key Takeaway:

You are not failing if you’re not thriving right now. Surviving something incredibly painful takes strength and courage. These resources and tools are here to help you feel less alone and build safety—one small step at a time.

Chapters

• (00:00:00) - Healing While Being Shot At
• (00:01:32) - Give a Woman Her Wings
• (00:02:51) - Healing While Being Shot At
• (00:05:16) - The Pain of Living With an Addictions Partner
• (00:07:10) - Exhaustion and Gaslighting
• (00:10:16) - Post-Separation Abuse: How I Survived
• (00:16:03) - Six Steps to Soul Care
• (00:22:43) - A Meditation for Rest and Safeness
• (00:24:47) - A Shield of Light for Trauma Survivors