42: What's Yours to Fix? Navigating Empathy and Boundaries

42: What's Yours to Fix? Navigating Empathy and Boundaries

Just Because I Can Doesn't Mean I Should

Over the past week, I've been connecting with lots of different people — friends, family, clients, leaders. It's truly lovely to share our lives, our successes, our joys, and even our struggles.

Something I noticed, though … when someone I care about is going through a hard time, I often find myself wanting to jump in and fix things. I really don't like to see people struggle, especially those close to me who I care about.

But I've realized that the further removed someone is from our lives, the less their issues actually impact us. And this is normal — our brains are wired for connection, and we're supposed to care when people we love are experiencing challenges.

While I used to feel a strong responsibility to help, this usually led to my own feelings of anxiety and overwhelm. As women, we're usually socialized to be the problem solvers and caregivers. But constantly taking on others' problems can be exhausting!

Not only that, but giving unsolicited advice when trying to "fix things" can feel like criticism to the recipient and lead to resentment on both ends. (I know how I feel on the receiving end of unsolicited advice!)

Here's the thing, though — sometimes, focusing on others' issues can be a distraction from facing our own.

In today's episode, I'm sharing my new practice, even after almost 20 years as a psychologist. This is an important one!

Key Takeaways:

  • It's normal to want to help people we care about, and it's just as important to recognize our own emotional responses to their struggles.

  • Consider who modeled caregiving and problem-solving in your own life.

  • Holding space for others involves managing our own emotions while actively listening and understanding what the other person truly needs.

  • Knowing our capacity and setting boundaries is essential for maintaining healthy relationships and avoiding burnout and overwhelm.

  • Just because you can help, doesn't mean you should. Before you offer support, ask yourself (or the person you want to help) if it's in everyone's best interest.

Timestamps:

00:00 Introduction to The Overwhelm Cure

01:28 Understanding Empathy and Responsibility

06:42 The Problem with Unsolicited Advice

10:00 How to Hold Space

15:17 Balancing Personal Boundaries When Helping Others

18:57 Facing Our Own Issues

24:00 The Serenity Prayer and Final Thoughts

27:38 Overwhelm Cure Program Invitation

Invitation: Sign up for The Overwhelm Cure Program

The Overwhelm Cure Program is a six week program, where you'll participate in regular exercises, and we'll come together each week to discuss ways to help you finally overcome feelings of overwhelm.

Link to sign up now - https://www.kimberlyknull.com/overwhelm-cure-program

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2. Burnout Series: How to Overcome Stress

2. Burnout Series: How to Overcome Stress

Let's talk about the big fat elephant in the room - burnout. In today's society we just can't seem to outrun stress, especially in the workplace. With remote work on the rise, it can feel impossible to unplug even when it's time to clock out. It's too easy to respond to work emails after hours when you can do it right from your phone. The truth is, we weren't wired to be constantly tapped into work. That's why it's no surprise that burnout is on the rise, and The World Health Organization has even recognized job burnout as an official health diagnosis. The good news? There is a better way. Even if you can't ditch all of your stressors, you can prevent burnout by learning how to complete the stress cycle. Curious about how you can unlock the stress cycle so you can swear off burnout for good? That's exactly what I'm covering today along with… Why women experience burnout differently than men How hyper-independence sabotages our wellbeing And so much more! Tune in and learn how to tame your stress. Connect with Kim: Register for The Gifts of Imperfection™ Workshop where you'll learn how to embrace your inner flaws and accept who you are → https://www.courageousleadership.ca/booking Connect on Instagram → https://www.instagram.com/courageousleadershipyeg/

28 Apr 202318min

1. Unf*ck your life

1. Unf*ck your life

Do you ever have one of those weeks where things just don't click? Maybe your boss is on your case, you have a cold, or your sleep schedule is a mess. During these challenging seasons, our thoughts tend to spiral, leading us to believe that we're incapable of making positive changes in our lives. ‌ As a psychologist, I'm here to tell you that couldn't be further from the truth! In today's episode, I'm diving deep into how you can take the reigns on your thoughts so you can learn how to feel good even when life is hectic! I'm also discussing: Why it might be a good idea to partner with a psychologist who can help you spot problem thoughts and stop them in their tracks What to keep in mind when searching for support: Why liking your therapist matters more than what type of therapy they do How nourishing your brain and overall well-being can help you create a positive ripple effect ‌ After listening, you might be surprised by how motivated you feel to make life-giving changes in your day-to-day, one of those might even include bringing in the help of a therapist to help you put it all into action! Connect with Kim: Register for The Gifts of Imperfection™ Workshop where you'll learn how to embrace your inner flaws and accept who you are → https://www.courageousleadership.ca/booking Connect on Instagram → https://www.instagram.com/courageousleadershipyeg/

28 Apr 202318min

Welcome to Therapy Explained!

Welcome to Therapy Explained!

Thinking about therapy but not sure if it's right for you? Even though people are finally starting to normalize it, there are still some stigmas around having a therapist. This podcast will answer all your questions about therapy. Therapy works. This podcast will tell you why. Join me each week for a new episode of Therapy Explained where I'll demystify the powerful tool that is therapy and help you understand exactly how your brain works so you'll feel like you're in the driver's seat on your therapy journey. Connect with Kim: Register for The Gifts of Imperfection™ Workshop where you'll learn how to embrace your inner flaws and accept who you are → https://www.courageousleadership.ca/booking Connect on Instagram → https://www.instagram.com/courageousleadershipyeg/

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