36. Penis Performance Pointers - Lasting Longer with Jeff Abraham

Have you heard of the “male G-spot”? It’s another name for the prostate and it’s a major erogenous zone. But it’s an area that has been largely unexplored by most people.   On this episode, Sara and Prescott Gaylord (http://prescottgaylord.com), an improv actor and intimacy co-ordinator, go on a journey to explore everything in prostate play.   First, we discuss what is a prostate, where you can find it, and the benefits of stimulating it for pleasure. Prescott shares his personal experiences of prostate orgasms, which feel longer lasting and more full-bodied than traditional ejaculatory orgasms.   We alleviate the most common fears and concerns around prostate play, discussing general hygiene and safety practices, and warm-up techniques. And we discuss one of the most commonly heard myths - whether prostate play makes you gay.   Prescott and Sara exchange practical tips around toys, lube, and what to have around your space before exploring prostate play.   We also role-play how to find the prostate, with the consent and communication cues necessary for anyone who is interested in trying this kind of play for the first time.   Tune into this episode to learn more about using the prostate to heighten sexual pleasure and explore the possibilities of the male orgasm. It may change your bedroom dynamics forever.     Support this show on Patreon http://patreon.com/betterinbed   Visit Sarasense website http://sarasense.com   Follow @hellosarasense on Instagram   Check out our sponsors that help keep this show free: Promescent (http://promescent.com)   Detailed show notes for this episode at https://www.sarasense.com/podcast-posts/50-exploring-prostate-play

18 Sep 20221h

How can you be more mindful with masturbation?   Mindfulness has taken off as a wellness practice in recent years, yet most people don’t generally think of using it in the context of masturbation. Mindful masturbation is all about reconnecting with yourself and focusing on what makes you feel good. The practice encourages everyone to slow down, become conscious of pleasure and explore the body more holistically, instead of just focusing on the genitals. On this episode, Sara and co-host Prescott invite Singaporean sexuality and intimacy coach Gabriel / “Pothos” (https://www.sensualmassageart.com/) to talk about the benefits of mindful masturbation, and how to get started with the practice.    While having a quick orgasm solo can be efficient and convenient, we share how mindful masturbation can bring benefits such as enhanced pleasure, increased sexual confidence, and a release of performance anxiety.   We also discuss how sex journals, fantasising and even porn watching can all be used as tools to discover more about our sexuality, if we use them mindfully.   Finally, Gabriel takes Sara and Prescott through a short, 10 minute guided meditation (for masturbation) demonstration on air, which listeners can follow along to too.   If you’re hoping to gain a deeper understanding of your sexuality the practice of mindful masturbation, this episode will offer you all the tips, insights and guidance you need.     Get bonus content and support us on Patreon http://patreon.com/betterinbed   Visit Sarasense website http://sarasense.com    Follow @hellosarasense on Instagram   Episode Sponsor: Use code BETTERINBED for 15% off Ohmibod products at https://www.lovelifetoys.com/   Detailed show notes for this episode here http://sarasense.com/podcast

31 Maj 20221h 3min

What helps you build sexual confidence? Sex is a vulnerable act, and fear and self-doubt can often arise in situations where things don’t go according to our expectations.   On this thoughtful FAQ episode, Sara and relationship coach, Valentina Tudose from Happy Ever After (https://happyeverafter.asia/) answer your most pressing questions around building sexual confidence. Topics on this episode include:   How do I feel sexy in my body after a double mastectomy for breast cancer? How can I stop being anxious about my small penis size? I’ve noticed a pattern in my relationships that sex with my partner usually stops after 1-2 months of dating. How can I overcome feeling undesirable? I suffer from vaginismus and have low sexual confidence. How can I stop worrying that my partner isn’t getting the intimacy he craves? How can I be more confident around initiating sex?   Throughout the episode, we offer countless tips on how to make the shift from performative sex to pleasurable sex. Anyone can be sexually confident, but it does take practice, care and patience.   At its core, sexual confidence is about feeling comfortable in your body, knowing you deserve pleasure and being able to articulate what you enjoy.   Learning to accept and be grateful for our bodies as “good bodies” can make a huge impact on our perception of any sexual situation, and help to boost our sexual confidence.   Identifying our desires (and fears) and then discussing them openly with our partners can also help to prevent our negative self-talk from taking over in the moment.   Sex is as much of a mental activity, as a physical activity. So start building your sexual confidence by tuning into this episode! Support this show on Patreon http://patreon.com/betterinbed   Visit Sarasense website http://sarasense.com   Follow @hellosarasense on Instagram   Check out our sponsor sexual health company Promescent (http://promescent.com)   Detailed show notes at http://sarasense.com/podcast

15 Maj 202240min

Is three always a crowd? Apparently not when it comes to group sex encounters - since studies say that having a threesome is one of the most popular sexual fantasies.    On this episode, Sara and co-host Jannus sit down with model and sexy lifestyle events host Vonny Lang (http://instagram.com/vonnylang), to chat about our personal experiences around group sex. We explore the different benefits and dynamics of group sex, and why its such a common fantasy. We also discuss the common fears that people may have when approaching group sex, and how to overcome them.    We give guidance around how newbies can bring up a group sex fantasy to a partner and navigate their first group sex encounter at a play party or a sex club.    This episode will inspire you and give you some useful tips if you’re figuring out how to have a sexy, fun, drama-free threesome (or moresome) of your wet dreams!   --- Support this show on Patreon http://patreon.com/betterinbed   Visit Sarasense website http://sarasense.com   Follow @hellosarasense on Instagram   Check out our sponsors: Beducated (http://beducate.me/betterinbed) use code BETTERINBED for 65% off annually, and sexual health company Promescent (http://promescent.com) Detailed show notes for this episode here.

28 Apr 20221h 13min

Curious to try an open relationship, but don’t know quite where or how to start?   On this episode, Sara chats with relationship coach Valentina Tudose (http://happyeverafter.asia) to answer your most common questions about open relationships, such as:   What basic ground rules should I set if I’m just starting out with open relationships How can I handle my intense attraction to a new lover since I started to open my relationship with my spouse? I want to have an open relationship, but how do I manage my jealousy? How do I bring up an open relationship to a partner that has been previously unreceptive?   Some ground rules that Valentina and I discuss for an open relationship include: prioritizing your partner, having regular check-ins, communicating your needs with compassion, and a strong commitment to radical honesty.   We also share tips around managing jealousy and how when used constructively, jealousy can be a useful tool to help us address issues and get what we need.   We also offer reminders and tips for couples who are in the process of opening up their relationship to think about it as if they're embarking on a joint adventure or an exciting journey together.    If you're interested in open relationships, we suggest bringing up the conversation regarding your values and beliefs around non-traditional relationship models early in the dating process to avoid a future mismatch and heartbreak.   This episode is a must-listen if you and/or your partner are curious about non-monogamy or trying to work up the courage to open your relationship.   --- Support this show on Patreon http://patreon.com/betterinbed   Visit Sarasense website http://sarasense.com   Follow @hellosarasense on Instagram   Support our sponsor Beducated. Get 65% off their annual subscription with code BETTERINBED at http://beducate.me/betterinbed   Detailed show notes for this episode here.

22 Mars 202244min

Ever been in a sexual situation where your - or your partner's - penis wasn't doing exactly what you wanted it to do?    Penis issues are incredibly common, yet they are often accompanied by stress, fear, anxiety, and shame. The penis-owner can feel like a failure, and they can make sex a task instead of a pleasure.   That’s why Sara and Jeff Abraham, CEO of sexual health company Promescent (http://promescent.com) sit down and answer your most pressing penis questions on this Sex FAQs episode. Topics include: How do I overcome performance anxiety? What can I do to keep my erections strong with age? How can I last longer during sex? How can I improve my male masturbation sessions?  How do I maintain an erection with condoms?  What if I struggle to ejaculate during sex?   Sara and Jeff shed some light on the causes of common penis issues, and talk about what to do if, or when, things go south in different situations.   Penis challenges are very common, and they don’t have to signal the end of your sex life. After all, there’s so much more to sex than just erections and ejaculations, so shifting away from a penis performance mindset and finding creative ways to satisfy each other is key.   As communication is the most important tool to solve any kind of penis issue, speak up and seek help with any challenge you may be experiencing. Ultimately, penis issues are nothing to be ashamed of.    Tune in to the episode to get tips on keeping your penis healthy and happy in any S.O.S situation.    ---   Support this show on Patreon http://patreon.com/betterinbed   Visit Sarasense http://sarasense.com   Follow @hellosarasense on Instagram   Detailed show notes for this episode here.

5 Mars 202252min

How does self-love help us have a better sex life?   On this uplifting episode, Sara sits down with co-host and relationship coach Valentina Tudose of Happy Ever After to discuss the principles of self-love and how they apply to the bedroom.   We start off with a definition of how self-love is about accepting and integrating all parts of ourselves, even the parts that we might ordinarily hide, reject or be ashamed of.   When we love ourselves enough, we stop performing in the bedroom, we have more pleasure, and we give ourselves permission to fully express our sexuality.   If you’re someone that’s looking to empower yourself with self-love in the bedroom and beyond, this episode will give you practical tips to change unhelpful narratives around sex, deal with your inner critic, fully express your sexuality and more!   ---   Want more tips for healthier, happier sex life? Join my community.   Visit Sarasense website   Follow @hellosarasense on Instagram   Your support for our sponsors helps keep this show FREE: Get 10% off the Mira Fertility system with promo code BETTERINBED at http://miracare.com   Support our sponsor Beducated and get a monthly subscription for just $9.99 per month or 65% off their annual subscription with code BETTERINBED at http://beducate.me/betterinbed   Detailed show notes for this episode here.   P.S. If you’ve gotten value from this podcast, I’d really appreciate it if you subscribed, left a review or bought me a coffee. :)

19 Feb 20221h 6min

How can we rekindle the sexual desire for a long-term partner? Or is desire always destined to fade?   On this pre-Valentine’s Day episode, Sara chats with Dr. Kristin Zeising, a clinical psychologist and certified sex therapist, and co-host Mo from the Ho Ho Hong Kong podcast, and we tackle all things sexual desire.   Kristin shares the latest scientific thinking on the sexual response cycle, and we discuss the different styles of sexual desire - spontaneous vs responsive.   We learn that sexual desire doesn’t have to fade in long-term relationships, the nature of desire just changes over time.   By managing the biggest drivers and brakes that impact our sexual desire, we can take back control of our sex drives, and sex lives.   We also challenge the most common myths surrounding sexual desire, such as whether men really do want sex more than women and whether libido always drops off with age.   This episode offers practical strategies for lovers who are looking to spice things up and rekindle their sexual spark. So if you’re struggling with sexual desire in your relationship due to the pandemic or simply life’s daily challenges, have a listen!    ---   Want more tips for healthier, happier sex life? Join my community.   Visit Sarasense website http://sarasense.com   Follow Sara @hellosarasense on Instagram.   Your support for our sponsors help keep this show FREE: Get 20% off at @manscaped and free shipping with promo code BETTERINBED at Manscaped.com   Check out our sponsor Promescent, which makes a delay spray clinically proven to help men last longer in bed.   Detailed show notes for this episode here.   P.S. If you’ve gotten value from this podcast, I’d really appreciate it if you subscribed, left a review, or bought me a coffee. :)

5 Feb 202258min