Episode 63: Fisting Is Not Sex? BottomGuyNYC on Sport, Open Love & Flagging at Work

In this episode of Brolapse, HungerFF sits down with BottomGuyNYC—NYC bar manager, shameless fister, and proud red-hanky flagger—to talk about why, for him, fisting isn’t sex… it’s a sport.

They dig into what it means to “train” for play, why a hand in someone can feel less intimate than dick-and-butt sex, and how he balances a 21-year open relationship where his husband is his emotional home—but the kink happens elsewhere.

From nervously sitting in the car before his first Fist Fest to organizing fisting meetups on Atlantis cruises and Telegram, BottomGuyNYC breaks down the bond between fisters, the power of living openly at work, and how mentorship in kink still survives in the age of algorithms.

If you’ve ever felt “weird” for how you experience sex, intimacy, or kink, this conversation might make you feel a little less alone.

In this episode:

• Fisting as a sport vs. “real” sex

• Navigating an open relationship after 20+ years together

• Flagging red at work and stripping away shame

• Fist Fest as the “Olympics” and family reunion of kink

• Telegram, cruises, and building offline community in an online world

• Mentorship, safety, and why only showing the extreme 45 seconds can be dangerous

Follow BottomGuyNYC:

• X (Twitter): @bottomguynyc

• BlueSky: @BottomGuyNYC

• JustFor.Fans: https://justfor. fans/bottomguynyc1

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