8: Losing Yourself in Relationships: Learning to Choose You | A Session with Sara

Sara came to this session three days after a breakup, trying to do something she had never really done before: stay with herself instead of reaching for someone else to make the feeling go away.

If you lose yourself in relationships, abandon your own needs to keep everyone else happy, or feel panic at the thought of being alone, this live coaching session is your way back to you.

Losing yourself in a relationship is one of the quietest kinds of heartbreak.

You look up after it ends and you're not quite sure who's left.

This episode is for you if:

You lose yourself in relationships and struggle to find your way back.

The fear of being alone feels less like peace and more like panic.

You abandon your own needs to keep everyone else happy.

You want to stop abandoning yourself and start choosing yourself.

At one point in the session, Sara says the thing so many people have felt but never said out loud:

“I don't even know who I am.”

This is not a talk about self-love.

It is self-love happening in real time.

You will hear Sara's nervous system settle right there on the recording, and if you listen closely, you might feel your own do the same.

In this session:

The little girl in the trunk. Why the part of you that panics when you're alone may be a younger part of you who learned to take care of everyone else instead of staying connected to herself, and what it means to finally bring her up into the front seat.

Do not buy the chicken. The simple reframe that turns “I can't call them” into “I choose me,” and why telling yourself what not to do can keep you focused on the very thing you're trying to move away from.

Surfing the wave. A live somatic practice for meeting a hard emotion in the body, breathing through it, allowing it to move, and returning to calm so your nervous system begins to learn that it is safe to stay with you.

What was never modeled. How the way we learned to be with emotion as children can shape the way we abandon ourselves as adults, and how you get to begin reparenting that part of yourself now.

Choosing yourself is a practice. You are learning something you may never have been taught.

But the love you have been chasing out there has been inside you the whole time.If you want support while you find your way back in, the Cultivating Safety guided audio is here for you, so you never have to do this alone:Cultivating Safety: Guided Breathwork & Somatic Practice

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