Mom + Daughter Communication Tips with guest Alta-Grace Tan, PsyD

In this episode, Alyssa and Nadia welcome special guest Alta Grace Tan, a licensed clinical psychologist specializing in anxiety, depression, mood disorders, and family relationships. Together, they dive into the evolving dynamic between parents and their adult children, discussing the challenges of communication, independence, and setting healthy boundaries.

The conversation covers how parents can support their kids without overstepping, why young adults still turn to their parents for advice, and how to maintain closeness despite different lifestyles and time zones. With humor, real-life stories, and expert insights from Grace, this episode is a must-listen for anyone navigating the transition from childhood to adulthood within their family.Takeaways

• Parent-child dynamics evolve as kids transition into adulthood.
• Many young adults still turn to their parents for advice but struggle with balancing independence and reliance.
• Time zones, schedules, and life responsibilities can make communication between parents and kids more challenging.
• Parents often feel the urge to immediately solve their child’s problems, but sometimes, kids need space to figure things out.
• The shift from dependence to independence requires mutual understanding and trust.
• Parents can help by using "I" statements instead of judgment to keep conversations open and supportive.
• Every family has a different communication style—some talk daily, while others check in monthly, and that's okay.
• Setting healthy boundaries is key to maintaining a strong relationship without overstepping.
• Shared experiences—whether traveling together or co-hosting a podcast—help maintain closeness despite different lifestyles.
• Love and support don't always mean agreement; it’s about being there, even when perspectives differ.

Chapters

00:10 – Introducing Guest: Psychologist Alta Grace Tan

01:12 – The Struggles of Parent-Child Communication in Adulthood

02:42 – Finding Balance Between Independence & Seeking Advice

06:15 – Why Parents Feel the Need to Solve Every Problem

09:01 – How to Offer Support Without Overstepping

12:00 – The Role of Boundaries in Parent-Adult Child Relationships

14:23 – Using "I" Statements to Prevent Conflict

17:26 – The Importance of Shared Experiences in Maintaining Closeness

21:57 – How Often Should Parents & Kids Communicate?

24:30 – Navigating Different Expectations for Communication

27:41 – Final Thoughts & Advice for Strengthening Relationships

Here is the website where you can request an appointment with Dr. Tan:

https://alta-grace-tan.clientsecure.me/