Boundaries, Codependency & Healthy Selfishness: How to Love Without Losing Yourself

In this powerful and real conversation, Ilona Poka and Dr. Bill Mock dive deep into the truth about boundaries—why we need them, how trauma messes with them, and how to lovingly set them with friends, family (yes, even your mom!), and partners.

They break down the three boundary types—porous, rigid, and semi-permeable—and explain how to create emotional safety while staying true to yourself. Ilona shares real-life stories about saying "no" with love and how honoring your gut can save your relationships (and your sanity). Bill brings in wisdom from decades of counseling, shining light on codependency, communication breakdowns, and the power of "I statements."

You’ll walk away from this episode understanding how to:

• Say yes to yourself without guilt

• Avoid resentment by setting clear expectations

• Replace people-pleasing with honest communication

• Practice "healthy selfishness" so you can truly show up for others

This one’s for anyone who’s ever felt drained by doing too much for others—or silenced their own needs to avoid rocking the boat.

🎧 It’s time to live and love abundantly... with boundaries that protect your peace.

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