167. A Deep Dive Into Burned Haystack Dating Method w/ Dr. Jennie Young

167. A Deep Dive Into Burned Haystack Dating Method w/ Dr. Jennie Young

In this episode, you'll learn why so many dating app profiles start to look and sound the same and what that means on a deeper level (It's deeper than you think). I’m joined by Dr. Jennie Young, a writer, English professor, and creator of Burned Haystack Dating Method. BHDM is a framework for understanding the patterns and formulas people use in their bios (usually without even realizing it). We talk about why these patterns show up, how they shape your experience swiping, and how to create a dating app profile that actually stands out without trying so hard. At the end, we analyze some profiles and messages together to identify rhetorical patterns. This episode is going to change how you look at dating app profiles!


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