Fear in a Spreadsheet: What's Really Running Your Love Life in 2026
If you're a high-achieving man who's been approaching dating like a well-run project — vetting candidates, optimizing your time investment, tracking outcomes — this episode holds up the mirror. Not to...
24 Maalis 22min
The Hidden Cost of Being Really Good at Your Job
What if the reason dating feels so hard has nothing to do with you doing the wrong things — and everything to do with you doing the right things in the wrong context? In this episode, I break down th...
17 Maalis 22min
The Thermostat Theory: What Your Childhood Set Point Has to Do With Your Dating Patterns
TW: This episode contains brief mention of mental illness and abduction. Ever done real personal growth work — and still ended up back in the same pattern? There's a reason for that, and it has nothin...
10 Maalis 24min
Behind, Too Late... or Are You Right On Time?
Ever feel like you've missed your chance at love? Like everyone else figured out dating while you were focused elsewhere—or like you've tried so hard for so long that you're just... done? In this epis...
3 Maalis 24min
Stop Running Your Adult Heart on Middle School Software
There was a moment — probably somewhere between 6th and 9th grade — when you gathered every ounce of courage you had, made yourself vulnerable, and got absolutely demolished for it. You didn't call it...
24 Helmi 21min
No Butterflies, No Problem – My Husband’s Side of the Story
What does it really feel like when you meet someone and there are no fireworks—just clarity? Last week, we unpacked how pop culture has trained us to chase intensity, mistake anxiety for attraction, a...
17 Helmi 23min
No Fireworks? No Problem: Why Chasing Spark Is a Race You Don’t Want to Win
What if the feelings we’ve been taught to chase are the very thing keeping us stuck?Movies, TV shows, and even dating culture itself have trained us to equate instant chemistry, butterflies, and emoti...
10 Helmi 16min
"It’s Not You… It’s Me" - Why You Keep Being Almost Chosen
There’s an exhaustion that comes from modern dating — not from clear rejection, but from being almost chosen.From building connection and momentum, only to hear some version of:“You’d make a great par...
3 Helmi 17min
