047. Being A Girls' Girl: Relational Manipulation As A CPTSD Survivor

You've had the experience — someone tells you what's being said about you in the group chat you're not part of, or you overhear it, or it lands in a comment section, and suddenly you're defending a version of yourself you don't recognize. The spiral is immediate, the shame is disproportionate, and you can't tell whether to retaliate or apologize. In this episode, I teach the Embodiment Equation: why leaving the body in childhood sets up an implicit contract that invites relational manipulation, why women under patriarchy reach for character attacks as a counterfeit source of power, and what being a Girls' Girl actually means when you define it structurally instead of reflexively. Drawing on a detailed business-team scenario, I walk through the honesty audit that lets you hold accountability and self-protection at the same time. If you've ever thought "why is this always happening to me" or "why did I just stoop to that," this episode was made for you

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About Dr. Tanner Wallace

Dr. Tanner Wallace is a childhood trauma survivor, former university professor, and Level 3 Internal Family Systems practitioner who founded CPTSD Medicine. She helps humans who look really good on paper, but behind closed doors are experiencing severe emotional distress in their closest relationships, to resolve what's causing this and become outstanding parents and partners. Her approach is applied mental health training, not therapy.

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Heal First, Then Pick Your Life Partner is for high-functioning adults with complex trauma who are tired of repeating painful relationship patterns. If you perform well professionally but struggle intensely in your closest relationships, this podcast teaches you why and what to do about it.

Each episode explores how CPTSD shapes your parenting, partnering, identity, and emotional life, and offers a grounded, structured perspective on what resolution actually looks like. Topics include IFS and parts work, trauma-driven relationship patterns, emotional distress in partnerships, career identity as a survival response, and navigating psychiatric medication alongside healing.

Hosted by Dr. Tanner Wallace, PhD, this podcast is applied mental health training for adults who want resolution, not just management.