109. Why are we so hard on ourselves?

109. Why are we so hard on ourselves?

So often in life, we are our own worst enemies. The meanest and loudest voice in our head is our own. So why are we so hard on ourselves? In this episode we break down the psychological underpinnings behind our inner critic, from the proposed evolutionary role of negative self talk, to the influence of our upbringing including the distinction between conditional and unconditional positive regard, parental expectations and childhood bullying. We examine how social comparison and overthinking can contribute to a poor self perception but, also, how we can adopt the methods of radical self compassion and cognitive diffusion to silence that inner voice and be free from self judgement. Listen now!

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345. How to fall in love with failure

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344. Sociopathy

344. Sociopathy

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343. The psychology of saturn's return

343. The psychology of saturn's return

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342. The psychology of dissociation

342. The psychology of dissociation

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14 Okt 202546min

341. The 5 types of toxic friendships

341. The 5 types of toxic friendships

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9 Okt 202546min

340. The 10 regrets I have about my 20s (so far)

340. The 10 regrets I have about my 20s (so far)

Today I'm reflecting on some of the lessons I've been taking from my early 20s. We all have regrets about things we wish we'd done differently or not done at all, and I'm hoping you can learn from min...

7 Okt 202539min

339. The psychology of rock bottom

339. The psychology of rock bottom

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