Make Your Damn Bed6 Mai 2025

1440 || the trad wife scam

I think the skeeziest lie about the trad wife movement is that it’s just a type of stay at home mom. Unlike stay-at-home moms, who may choose to stay home for practical reasons, like saving money on child care or because they genuinely want to, trad wives adhere to incredibly strict traditional gender roles - regardless of what the woman actually wants. A woman's identity becomes "the family" and looking "good" for the family, anything outside of that is to be shamed explicitly.

According to wikipedia: Tradwives have been linked to the alt-right movement.

Patriarchy need the gender binary so they can claim that things fit neatly into it. If I say men and women exist and there’s no spectrum of how that presents, despite there being no proof - I also get to say that some work is women’s work and I won’t ever have to do it.

Washing the dishes is a life skill that anyone who has eaten off of a dish should master. Laundry is a life skill. Cooking is a life skill. Child rearing is a life skill. Hygiene is a life skill. Communication is a life skill. If you have a life, it will benefit from knowing how to do these skills.

Forced binaries are an attempt to control the uncontrollable. To justify rules where rules shouldn’t exist.

Organically + intentionally falling into "traditional gender roles" is wonderful, but gender roles shouldn't exist in the first place, so we absolutely need to avoid forcing people into them.

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