You’re Not Broken: Sex, Shame & Self-Love (ft. Dirty Lola)

You’re Not Broken: Sex, Shame & Self-Love (ft. Dirty Lola)

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) is joined by sex educator, performer, and self-proclaimed “dildo slinger” Dirty Lola (@dirtylola) for a raw and hilarious conversation about shame, sex, and self-acceptance.

From growing up in a naked household to navigating deep religious trauma, Lola shares the journey of becoming a fearless advocate for shameless pleasure and body confidence. We get into:

  • Her early sex-positive explorations and yes—high school sex parties!

  • The complex layers of body image, fatphobia, and family shame

  • How shame shows up in our sex lives and what to do about it

  • Why orgasms don’t equal worth, and how to stop performative sex

  • What she’s learned about micropenises, penis shame, and making pleasure work for everyone

  • How to start loving your body—even before it’s your “goal body”

  • Tips on letting go of external validation and dressing for YOU

  • Aging, menopause, and staying slutty at every stage of life

  • How to be a better partner by showing up with kindness and compliments

  • This episode is brought to you by Splash Blanket - the world’s most luxurious waterproof blanket. Feel more free and liberated in the bedroom with code ALEXA


    😏 Want to hear more behind the scenes? On Patreon, you’ll find the unedited version of this episode, stories from my personal dating life, and access to my Close Friends list on Instagram

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