Most of us have been conditioned our entire lives with the messaging that we should just be happy and filled with pleasure at all times. When we don't feel happy all the time, we avoid the negative emotion by buffering from what is actually real.

In this episode, you'll learn the real reasons why you buffer, and what it is costing you. When we buffer, we give ourselves a false sense of safety and security, but we are missing the opportunity to understand why we are buffering in the first place. We miss what the uncomfortable emotion is that we are avoiding, and why it keeps showing up.

Learning to stop buffering is where life becomes really good. You stop needing false pleasure because you know how to create it with your mind. You aren't afraid to feel any emotion. You stop hiding from yourself and start creating the life you actually want.

More information at https://andreagiles.com/podcast/

© 2021 Andrea Giles

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Toxic Independence | Ep #135

Toxic Independence | Ep #135

In a world that celebrates independence, it can seem like "weakness" to build relationships that require vulnerability. With "cancel culture" being rampant, it goes against the messages of the day, es...

9 Feb 202429min

People-pleasing and Infidelity with Sara Fisk, Part 2 | Ep #134

People-pleasing and Infidelity with Sara Fisk, Part 2 | Ep #134

In the 2nd of this 2 part series, Sara Fisk and Andrea go deeper into people-pleasing. They go into more detail about how people-pleasing tendencies can put relationships at risk, and how stopping pe...

26 Jan 202441min

People-pleasing and Infidelity with Sara Fisk, Part 1 | Ep #133

People-pleasing and Infidelity with Sara Fisk, Part 1 | Ep #133

Do you struggle with people-pleasing? Is it getting in the way of making clear decisions for yourself in the after-math of infidelity? In this 2-part series, Andrea and Sara Fisk talk all things peop...

12 Jan 202426min

Rebuilding Your Life After Infidelity with Lauren | Ep #132

Rebuilding Your Life After Infidelity with Lauren | Ep #132

In this episode, I interview a former client, Lauren. Be prepared for an episode you will go back to again and again as there were so many gems and truths in her words. Lauren not only shares in dept...

29 Des 202356min

Expectations of Healing | Ep #131

Expectations of Healing | Ep #131

How do you define healing? If you think it means never hurting again, you can be setting yourself up for even more pain in the future. In this episode, I cover various ways we can sabotage our own h...

15 Des 202324min

How to Change Relationship Dynamics | Ep #130

How to Change Relationship Dynamics | Ep #130

After infidelity, it is easy to fall into the trap of trying to take control of the healing and recovery of your partner. In this episode, you will learn why this is not a healthy, long-term solution...

1 Des 202319min

Seeing the Full Picture | Ep #129

Seeing the Full Picture | Ep #129

Sometimes we can use popular opinion against ourselves. We can listen to the opinions of others, rather than deeply searching our own hearts for what is true. In this episode, I use a powerful analog...

17 Nov 202327min

Financial Infidelity with Tracy Coenen | Ep #128

Financial Infidelity with Tracy Coenen | Ep #128

Romantic infidelity and financial infidelity often go hand in hand. Money is frequently spent on the affair partner, and in high-control relationships, spouses can feel like they have no say about whe...

3 Nov 202343min

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