Calm AF | Overthinking, Anxiety & Nervous System Regulation21 Sep 2022

Updating Your Thought-ware

If we think of the brain like an organic computer, then the quality of your life is only as good as the thought-ware you install.

When you were born, your mind was a clean slate, running a simple emotional and physiological operating system. Its job was to keep you alive and get your needs met. As you got older, the adults in your life installed and started running their own mental "software" – or, thought-ware – onto your operating system. Then you got older still, and began installing your own thought-ware which you habitually run depending on what you're trying to do in life. Trying to fit in? Launch the "Mimic Others" program! Trying to get attention? Run the "Pout and Storm Off" application!

And just like in actual computers running electronic software, your thought-ware eventually becomes old and obsolete. It no longer serves you. Your operating system has evolved, and so must your thought-ware. If you are an organic machine with a natural computer at the helm, the only way to get the machine to produce/create/manifest what you want is to run the thought-ware which makes that happen. Which inevitably means uninstalling the old applications (UNLEARNING old thoughts), downloading new thought patterns that serve you better (LEARNING new ones), and running those applications all the time until your operating system can run them with maximum efficiency (REWIRING).

You don't have to be into computers – lord knows I'm not!!!! – to get this message. Just grab a coffee and listen up, Gorgeous Soul! We're updating your thought-ware.

AND. The final offering of Rewired AF starts in October! Rewired AF will not be offered in 2023, so if have been on the fence…now's the time! Set up your call with me and let's see if it's a fit! https://kristenfinch.as.me/rewiredAF

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