293 SelfWork: Ten Common Birthplaces of The Shame You Never Deserved... But Carried With You
Shame. People often come into therapy saying things like, “I’m afraid I’m wasting your time, “ or, “I don’t know why I can’t pull myself together, “ Or, “If I believed in my faith and God enough, I wo...
22 Jul 202227min
SelfWork YGTG: When Too Much Self-Help Is... Too Much
Today's YGTG (You Get the Gist) is focused on self-help; can you seek out too much help? The answer is yes. Self-help can actually make some people feel inferior and ashamed, rather than better about ...
20 Jul 20228min
292 SelfWork Do You Stay In Emotional Chaos? How DBT (Dialectical Behavior Therapy) Can Help
Back when I was busy creating my own emotional chaos, my therapists used CBT therapy (cognitive behavioral therapy) and family systems therapy – both of which were very helpful to me. But today, we’r...
15 Jul 202227min
291 SelfWork: The Elephant In The Room: Five Tips On Caring For Someone Who Won't Help Themselves
What's one of the most frequent questions I get from SelfWorkers? What do you do when you care about someone who’s depressed or destructive or anxious or ill and they don’t seem to be able to or even...
8 Jul 202226min
290 SelfWork: Relentless Courage: A Conversation with Doc Shauna Springer and Veteran Police Officer Michael Sugrue
Trigger Warning: Suicide and Violence You may not know that suicide kills more first responders each year than die in the line of duty. This is one of many things that need to change. This book, Rele...
1 Jul 202255min
289 SelfWork: Your Body Your Mind and Their Amazing Connection
I’ve long been fascinated by the connections between our minds and our bodies, so much so that I wrote my dissertation (the original research you must complete before they give you a Ph.D.) on pseudos...
24 Jun 202228min
288 SelfWork: 14 Signs of Envy and The Quest for Celebrity
What risks do you run when you follow a quest for popularity or even celebrity? Envy is right at the top of the list, and today I'll offer 8 different signs that your need for external validation is r...
17 Jun 202226min
SelfWork YGTG: This Short Poem Describes Incredible Change and How To Make It
I use all kinds of stories and metaphors in therapy to help people actually remember a point. I’m not sure when I started doing it, but there’s something about a story or a picture that cements or an...
14 Jun 20223min
